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  • Dec 24, 2007, 06:26 PM
    spartan24018
    My questions about future relationships , etc.
    This question's been on my mind for a couple of days now and I need some of your help. In order to make the relationships that we all might have in the future, how do we really show someone that we have an unconditional love for them? The true question really is how do I give her true and unconditional love? Also, how do I show her that I love her?

    Thanks
  • Dec 24, 2007, 06:44 PM
    The Nobleman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spartan24018
    This question's been on my mind for a couple of days now and I need some of your help. In order to make the relationships that we all might have in the future, how do we really show someone that we have an unconditional love for them? The true question really is how do I give her true and unconditional love? Also, how do I show her that I love her?

    Thanks

    First off... it would appear as though you are about 12 or 13. So this is good. Experencing a crush... or a flirtation is good for you. You will get to know the difference between that and actual true love. True love will come in time... however do not mistake a compliment from one of your school mates for more then what its intended.
    Flirting and crushes are what you need to worry about. Be very careful with girls at elementary age and higher.. these girls will likely someday want to expericence pregnancy at an age that should they never should have to experince it... My best advice is this stay away from girls at this age... be more worried around prom time or Homecoming night... IN High School.
    Deep Love is something you want to keep and hang onto... Talk with your parents at this point and not ask for advice per web. Your parents love you... listen to what they to have they have to say and remember if you have to chose to listening to me or your parents... listen to your parents.
  • Dec 24, 2007, 07:29 PM
    spartan24018
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by The Nobleman
    First off...it would appear as though you are about 12 or 13. So this is good. Experencing a crush...or a flirtation is good for you. You will get to know the difference between that and actual true love. True love will come in time...however do not mistake a compliment from one of your school mates for more then what its intended.
    Flirting and crushes are what you need to worry about. Be very careful with girls at elementary age and higher..these girls will likely someday want to expericence pregnancy at an age that should they never should have to experince it...My best advice is this stay away from girls at this age....be more worried around prom time or Homecoming night...IN High School.
    Deep Love is something you want to keep and hang onto...Talk with your parents at this point and not ask for advice per web. Your parents love you...listen to what they to have they have to say and remember if you have to chose to listening to me or your parents...listen to your parents.

    I'm actually 16 and in high school, and been through a couple of big heartbreaks for teens my age, I guess. My parents married their first girlfriend/boyfriend so I'm not sure what kind of advice they could really give me. Thanks for the help though, I appreciate it.
  • Dec 24, 2007, 07:40 PM
    The Nobleman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spartan24018
    I'm actually 16 and in high school, and been through a couple of big heartbreaks for teens my age, I guess. My parents married their first girlfriend/boyfriend so I'm not sure what kind of advice they could really give me. Thanks for the help though, I appreciate it.

    Now I understand your situation a little more. Girls were breaking my heart to... first of all look around and ask your friends.. the ones with relationships that are longer then yours... some of them must be going to prom or have girlfriends of their own. Sex does not have always have to be option to keeping a relationship pure... I know this from actually trying to just like my friends in high school.. be yourself... be happy with who you are... I know its tough out... find a gal you have stuff in common with... hobbies and what not... hang around... eventually you will find someone new. Good luck... and remember always put her first... and be a gentleman. Parents parents parents... be real careful who you place your trust in and where you place your heart... I know I am still learning this lesson myself...
  • Dec 24, 2007, 07:50 PM
    mjl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spartan24018
    The true question really is how do I give her true and unconditional love? Also, how do I show her that I love her?

    How do you show it... tell her. She can't read your mind. How do you give her unconditional love... let your heart lead the way. You will know when the time comes how to express it.

    Just because your parents married their first bf/gf doesn't mean you have to. Don't rush it. I did marry my first boyfriend but my friends didn't, so that's just shows that its not everybody's way of going at it.
  • Dec 25, 2007, 10:53 AM
    talaniman
    I think knowing yourself and taking a pratical and realistic view of life is essential. Generally you treat people with the same respect, they give you so with a female it's the same. If she is nice, then be nice. The realistic part is that things are not forever. So stay healthy and realise that people change their minds and mat not agrree with you anymore. At your age you are just learning coping skills, and how to use them, so expect heartbreak, and fear of the unknown, so being patient with yourself, and being able to move on, is what these lessons are all about.
  • Dec 25, 2007, 05:59 PM
    The Nobleman
    The sad thing is this.. had your parents taken their time and made sure they wanted each other... you wouldn't have to get advice from want to be counsilors... on here.
  • Dec 26, 2007, 10:28 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by The Nobleman
    The sad thing is this..had your parents taken their time and made sure they wanted each other...you wouldn't have to get advice from want to be counsilors...on here.

    You can't even spell counselors. :eek:
  • Dec 26, 2007, 09:43 PM
    snowboarding_chick
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spartan24018
    This question's been on my mind for a couple of days now and I need some of your help. In order to make the relationships that we all might have in the future, how do we really show someone that we have an unconditional love for them? The true question really is how do I give her true and unconditional love? Also, how do I show her that I love her?

    Thanks

    You only have to do simple things to show a girl your feelings for her. Simply remember special days, like your "one month anniversary" and silly things like that. It sounds corny but to a girl it always means a lot. Also tell her how you feel with words and by your actions. Little actions mean a lot to a girl.
  • Dec 26, 2007, 09:49 PM
    spartan24018
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by snowboarding_chick
    you only have to do simple things to show a girl your feelings for her. simply remember special days, like your "one month anniversary" and silly things like that. it sounds corny but to a girl it always means a lot. also tell her how you feel with words and by your actions. little actions mean a lot to a girl.


    Thank you for your advice, and your suggestions were also really cute, lol. I appreciate it.

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