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I'm a 13 year old boy and I don't know if any girls like me I'm not popular I mean I don't have amny friends and I mean I can get along with people some really just ahte me some girls and I think other guys rip on me and rune my rep. so girls won't like me please help! :(
How many really good friends do you have e.g. you would tell them things about your personal life etc
You have to have confidence in yourself, and don't worry about what the people say, everybody picks on somebody. Don't let it get to you, that's the trick. Until you have confidence in yourself, your not going to have a girlfriend.
I might try that too lol doubt it will work with me though
confidence sounds like the main thing ... You need to start to hold your head up and ignore these ppl that seem to be taking the mickey. I know its hard but hey whilst your letting them get to you they will keep doing it.
If you don't have many friends at present, why don't you try and get involved in a local youth group(s) or some clubs at your school so you can mix a little more and maybe make some true friends for life and you may find this helps your confidence !!
Your at the start of a long life to go ahead.. Don't get over stressed about having a g/f now, when the time comes you will find that everything falls into place. Hell I didn't get my first real g/f till I was about 15 lol but it didn't bother me I just went with the flow.:)
Hi, Rando,
At 13, you already know you have a lot ahead of you. Learning about life, people, and yourself, makes it a very wonderful life.
As nwsflash said, get out and be with others.
I am 63, and if I remember correctly, I didn't really have a "girlfriend" until about 17 yrs old! I knew many girls, but didn't have anyone you might call a girlfriend.
So don't be concerned about not having one right now. There is a lot "peer pressure" sometimes, meaning some think it's important what others think about them. If others you know, who are also 13 have a girlfriend, it really doesn't mean you have to also. It's what you think about yourself that really counts.
Get out, get with other people, such as already suggested, go to church, or some other faith, whatever. Be with people.
Ruin your Rep? I wouldn't be so concerned about what some others might say, and I'll bet it's only 2 or 3 people you might be talking about... they don't count!
Stay positive, and don't be concerned with "negative" stuff. Think about good things, and most important, keep a SMILE on you face. A SMILE is worth a million words, it is who you are!
Best of luck, Rando, and hang in there. Things will change, just you wait and see!
Ty u guys ill keep alll that in mind I think uve alll helped a lot
Dear Rando, I couldn't have said it better than this myself. Don't be in a hurry - because then it might get old when it should just be beginning to be wonderful. And also, how do you know that those others actually do have 'girlfriends' - they just might be telling a lie to be 'popular' or brag about something they see on TV or in magazines, which is just as stupid. You'll know when you are ready, so don't worry about anyone else. Concentrate on making just plain friends, your education, a good solid future, and enjoy other fun and games. The girls will come around when the time is right. At your age, there are no set rules, you make your own - as long as you stay yourself and safe - don't risk or spoil things because of others. Good luck and Happy New Year!Quote:
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It used to be the Same way for me... I mean EXACTLY. People used to pick on me when I was 13... 14.. and now.. that I'm 15.. I gained a LOT more confident... and I didn't care what people thought.. and now EVERYBODY likes me.. ALL these boys (that I Don't and DO like) ask me out.. It was CRAZY.
When people start dissing you and stuff... just make a joke out of it. Find the sense of humor part about you... and drag it out. It worked very very well for me. So try it.. and keep posting! :)
A note also to those people ruining your rep, they won't have their girlfriends that long, 13 year old relationships don't really last that long, shelf life is like what 5 weeks(if your lucky) when I was your age which would have been like 3 years ago(lol), I had girlfriends but we just hung out and it wasn't romantic, it wasn't like we contemplated marriage, I hung out with her more than any other girl, and she hung out with me more than any other guy, and if you want to be popular or have some good friends, try joining a club or sports team, I don't know if your good at sports or not, but I have been blessed with being very good at sports and I have moved around a bit and been in a lot of schools, and sports allowed me to hang out with my teammates and be accepted as a friend. Also, even if your not that good just going there and talking to people at tryouts could garner you more friends, and once you get more good friends of the same sex, than the girls will start to notice you and take interest. But, even if you don't want to play a sport, there might be a club or something you could try to join, and at the very least remember that no is better than you, you have to got to carry yourself with confidence like the other person said, but don't be cocky, cocky and confidence walk very similar lines and you being cocky won't get you anything but beat up. So, I hope I have gave you some ideas if not for this year but maybe next year when sports tryouts pop up, or club memberships, and the confidence thing should start today, anyway if you need more advice please right in, I hope I helped, and have a good new years.
I don't really think anybody hates because as you said that you don't have friends at all.. and the guys who ruin your rep those are all peer pressures and sometimes in teen life we have to go through that and I think you should get involve into activities which involve people and get to know them better.. no one will hate anyone unless they know who you really are on the inside! You don't have to be popular just to get girls to like you I mean most girls are not popular but they still find someone! So don't worry!:)
I used to be the same. In school I was never not popular. I did have quite a lot of friends. I never had somebody I could talk to properly thought. E.G, if I was upset or w/e.
My confidence sucked a while ago. Always worried about what people would think about me. All changed in one simple day. My best friend likes some girl, and she liked him, but they hadn't met. They had seen each other in the street a few time, but talked mostly over the net. One day I just told them both, we should all go out. We did, and now they're together. Just helping with that boosted my confidence.
Next thing, I was going out every night, and I hated being inside. I've met people from going out, and I'm a lot more confident than I ever have been.
It does get better, you just have to push yourself :cool:
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