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What should I do

My girlfriend told me that she likes another guy. At first she was confused about us and our relationship and she didn't know if she loved me anymore know she isn't confused about us anymore she says she loves me and that she's not going to leave me for him. She also said that she rather be with me. But she still likes him and she said she wants to stop liking him and she doesn't know how to. She's grounded for the winter break and she said that she want to take a break during the winter break just to take one. But she says that were going to go back out when we go back to school. I don't know if she is lying to me or not because she's not the type of person to lie. But I don't know cause if we do take the break and she startes to talk to him more maybe she might start to like him even more then me. I don't know what to do we have been dating for 26 months now and I'm in so much pain just thinking abou gives me a headache.:( help me

Knowing someone for 26 months, you should know if she is being up front... If not, then you two have not really communicated much and just left things up in the air for fear of doing something wrong.
You need to express your thoughts and fears and ask her to tell you exactly what her plans are. Even if it hurts to hear what she has to say, it is better than being in the dark, waiting in that maybe zone that will continue to give you headhaches and worse.
So.. in other words, if you have questions about each other... ask the person who will give you the real answers.
Good luck and happy holidays.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifIt's always best to know the real deal, so that you can go on with your life from there. If you fear rejection,so what, we all do, but we are still alive and kicking - and that is what life is about.

Confusing I know. The fact she wants a break for a while, I would give it to her, and let her enjoy it. Would I be waiting with open arms for her to get back with me. Absolutely not. I would be enjoying my holiday with friends family, parties and fun. If she calls after the break? Okay, but I wouldn't just fall back in her arms like I've been waiting around, I would have to give it a lot of thought, since what has changed and how long until ANOTHER break is needed? If she doesn't call back? I would just continue with my own happy life. The whole point is, to give her what she ask for, and being true to yourself. It may sound cold, and your so into her, are you forgeting that you have to be happy too? Love yourself, no matter if she does, or doesn't.

I say that it's not fair for you to always be waiting around on her. She wants to break up and that hurts you and then if she wants to date again you're there too. She needs to understand or fully comphrend that your feelings matter as well. I would tell her until she decides what she really wants I don't want to be w/ her. I know it will not be an easy task... but it will be beneficial to you in the long run and possibly save you a lot of heartache.
Blessings!

Don't wait. Do your thing. If you find someone better, go for it. DO NOT LOOK BACK!. made that mistake the first time. Won't be making it again.

Sorry run a mile and don't look back.

Well we got over everything and she told me she doesn't like him anymore and all she wants is me. Should I believe her

Time will tell the story. I would suggest relaxing the relationship a bit by staying out of her face, off the phone, texting, emails, etc. Spend less time with her and see if the quality improves, such that you are not wondering whether to believe her or not. Whether your girlfriend likes you should not be a magic trick. If you are confused or having stomach issues about the relationship, then things are not what they should be.

What are you doing with someone you don't believe? This is more about you and your own fears and insecurities, and less about her at all. Most of our own misery is what we put ourselves through. Love yourself, and trust yourself, or ruin a good relationship.

You are so afraid of rejection and being alone, which we all are. Learn to deal with those feelings, and don't let them deal with you.

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Originally Posted by kingjackson

my girlfriend told me that she likes another guy. At first she was confused about us and our realtionship and she didnt know if she loved me anymore know she isn't confused about us anymore she says she loves me and that shes not going to leave me for him. She also said that she rather be with me. but she still likes him and she said she wants to stop liking him and she doesnt know how to. shes grounded for the winter break and she said that she want to take a break during the winter break just to take one. But she says that were going to go back out when we go back to school. I dont know if she is lying to me or not becasue shes not the type of person to lie. but i dont know cause if we do take the break and she startes to talk to him more maybe she might start to like him even more then me. I dont know what to do we have been dating for 26 months now and im in so much pain just thinking abou gives me a headache.:( help me

Just take it slow with her,girls can be cruel and can't make up there minds sometimes.. start hanging out with other people that make you happy,you don't want to be depressed all the time. If she does start to like you again tell her you want to take it slow so you won't get your heart broken. You need someone who makes you happy! So start hanging out with other girls going on dates. And then go from there.

Well now me and my girl are OK but thanks everybody for the help