Can I still get my ex back?
I was broken up with in August, by the ex I'll call P. We were together for ten months and hadn't gotten to see much of each other all summer, just once a week. He wouldn't really give an actual reason for his decision, besides that I was being too judgmental of people. He told me that he still cared for me, but that his decision wouldn't change in the near future. I went a little overboard trying to get him back, contacting him constantly and being where he was.
In October, I started feeling like I could date again, so I did. I dated a guy for a couple weeks, but all he wanted was a hook-up, and I ended up meeting another guy when I went home from school for break. The third guy and I hit it off well, and we've been dating for the past two months. He broke up with me Monday, saying that there was no emotional connection for him, that I was too clingy, and he pretty much didn't want to make long-distance work. I thought I wanted him back, thought I was in love with him and told him so.
Two nights later, I had three dreams. The first was me with the most recent ex. I asked him if he had feelings for me now, and he said "sure." The next two dreams were two parts of one. I had returned to school and P came to my room. He gave me a piece of paper with many reasons I should take him back. He told me he'd realized that he did want to be with me and kept hugging me and begging me. I told him that there were some things that I needed to tell him that he probably wasn't going to like, but he didn't want to hear them, that he understood what I had done and still wanted me.
I thought about it all day Thursday, and I realized that P is a much better guy than the recent ex was and that four months and two guys later, I still want him back. I had already contacted him on Tuesday because I found out my mom had been texting him and he replied and told me what she had said and to have a good break. He knows that my boyfriend broke up with me, but I don't know if he knows I want him back still. I talked to his sister, and she said that she's not sure what he wants right now, but that he's not interested in girls at the moment and that since he broke up with me, all he's been interested in is video games. She's sure that he'll want to be friends still and that she'd talk to him when she gets home for break. She knows what my intentions are with P and I think she does want to see him with a girl, not a video game.
All I know right now is that I have to try and reestablish friendship with him, but I'm not entirely certain how to do that. I did send him a Christmas card in the mail and I poked him on Facebook, but beyond that, I don't know what I can do, since I'm on break from school for the next month, and the only means of contact I have are Facebook, MySpace, Email, and the phone, but he doesn't have my phone number, as I got a new phone. Does anyone have any advice on how to reestablish the friendship or become more than friends?