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  • Dec 20, 2007, 04:17 AM
    honeymustard
    Confused . What's going on?
    There this guy that I was interested in when I first started working there about a year ago. I got jealous whenever I saw him talking to other girls at the office and he rarely talked to me in person at the office. I felt ridiculous for getting so worked up all the time so I tried to maintain a platonic relationship with him. I thought he was really cute and that him coming from a wealthy family, I wasn't good enough for him. So I diverted my attention to meeting other guys instead.

    Throughout this time, I've been an IMMENSE help to him with his studies. I continued to help him even after I left the company, if not more, since he's been swamped at work than ever before. He's becoming more and more reliant on me... for homework only, that is. I know he's grateful for my help, but I guess being a good tutor is all I am to him. He HAS offered to buy me dinner for my help, but I said it's okay because I didn't want to appear greedy. Then I thought that this would actually be a great opportunity hang out, so I've been joking to him about it. By the way, where IS my dinner? Haha.

    He's been platonic with me as well throughout this whole time. Seems like helping him with his homework is our only excuse to talk. We normally just talk about homework and complain about work. I felt invasive whenever I tried to probe him about his personal stuff so I back off and just let him offer information whenever he feels like it. So I guess I've kind of given up hope on him.

    Recently, he's gone on an out-of-town business trip with another girl from the office who is also my friend (I knew her before we all started working together). They rarely talked to each other... I guess until they went on this business trip together. Not that I'm jealous of them, but I don't understand why he's been reporting to me on MSN things that happened to her (when I knew already) and things they did together. Not all the time, but once in a while just out of the blue last minute nonsense and he just goes offline before I can even respond!

    What's going on?
    - Is he trying to make me jealous and get a reaction out of me?
    - Is he trying to hint that he's interested in her and wants my help?
    - Am I over-analyzing like I always do and it actually means nothing? Maybe he thinks he's just reporting "news from the office" to me since I seem to still know everything that goes on at the office, if not more than he does (he's quite clueless sometimes, haha) even after I left the company.

    Can anyone please give me some insight?
  • Dec 21, 2007, 02:25 AM
    honeymustard
    And he keeps referring to her by her nickname! He never called me by my nickname!

    He sounds like he cares about her... always reminding me that she fell and scraped herself recently

    And sounds like he knows her so well all of the sudden... sigh
  • Dec 21, 2007, 07:40 AM
    talaniman
    He has no romantic interests in you, so could you be a little jealous. Don't look to deep into this. Best to limit your contact with I'm though, as this is causing you confusion. He sounds like a friend who likes to confide in you.

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