Which choice do I make
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I have posted my breakup here before,
Yes you have, and gotten a lot of good feed back. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2171105
I was with her for a little over 2 years and she went back to her boyfriend of 4 years ago, they lived together for 2 years, she left because he drank allot, was verbly abusive and not a christian, well she says he has changed and now is living with him and engaged after 2 months.
She has decided where she wants to be, finally
When we were together things were not bad,
Just not good enough for her to see a future.
I know she cares about me but she feels he is the one.
Which means your not, so she had to jump from man to man and back to find that out.
I do not contact her and she contacts me sometimes.
WHY????? As a friend no doubt.
Well I know I have to move on
But you haven't as your still waiting for her.
but I know things will fall apart for her with this guy someday.
No you don't but, there is still hope, after all she still calls you, so she must care, or so you have led yourself to believe.
I love her so much and she knows this.
But she left you for the ex, and you think she will do the same thing to him, to be with you.
my question is, do I stay in touch with her
NO, and by the way she calls you remember.
or send her a email saying its too hard to be friends and for her not to contact me ?
NO, just stop taking her calls period, she will get the message quite well.
So Do I remain in limited contact with her and be a friend because the day will come when she will need a friend and then maybe something more could happen for us,
No, you should stop waiting and get your own life.
she may look at me in a different light,and maybe she will get stronger feelings for me, but if I send the email will she not contact me when the day comes when she is free ? or would she anyway ? would she respect me more if I sent the email ? I know she would feel bad.
You are where she wants you, and the e-mail will make no difference.
So when the day comes and she is free of this guy and if I am not involved what would my best chance be ?
You are still in the denial/false hope stage, unable to see clearly. Even if she did come back, which I doubt why would she see you as b/f material. Oh thats right you know she cares and has kept you on the back burner, just for that day to come, right.
should I be a friend or send the email ?
Doesn't make any difference since she knows she does what she wants with you.
This has been tearing me up.
Of course it is, since you are unable to move on, and get healthy as you've been told in your other posts. I hope I answered all your questions this time.