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  • Dec 14, 2007, 06:21 AM
    chuffman585
    How can I be "just friend's" with someone I am still in love with?
    My boyfriend of 4 years and I have been broken up for about 5 months. About 3 months ago, I lost my job and could no longer pay the rent... so shortly thereafter lost my apartment as well.
    My ex-boyfriend was there for me and was really supportive. After several attempts at trying to find another job it just did'nt work out. Knowing that I had no where else to go we decided that it would be best if I moved back in with him.
    I have been living here a little over 2 months. Being broken up and not seeing each other every day was hard, but being broken up and seeing him every single day is bitter and sweet if that makes any sense. I am still very much in love, and I have no idea where he stands. He is very flirttacious with me and I can tell that he still cares about me... but obviously he doesn't want to be with me because its been over for more than 5 months now.
    We have our own rooms, and I work a lot of nights so I don't see him a lot... but all my feelings for him are still there. I am grateful that he is still so kind to me and was nice enough to allow me to move in (he didn't have to do that). As far as I know he is not dating anyone and neither am I. I don't know what I expect but since I have to make the best of the situation I try to be nice and friendly when I'm around him... but I know that I can be ugly, and usually am. I know I am just trying to force myself into hating him so that I can stop hurting... but I feel like I'm going about this the wrong way.:(
  • Dec 14, 2007, 06:48 AM
    simoneaugie
    Tell him how you feel. If the feeling isn't reciprocated moving out would be a good idea.
  • Dec 14, 2007, 07:11 AM
    mafiaangel180
    He broke up with you... move out. It's time to stand on your own two feet. Relying on him won't make this any easier.
  • Dec 16, 2007, 08:05 PM
    talaniman
    Support yourself and move out. Don't you have family, or girlfriends?
  • Dec 16, 2007, 10:12 PM
    George_1950
    You have what is called a conflict of interests, and need to re-establish your adulthood, or independence, as a person.

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