Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 years now, and we're both virgins. I have been giving him oral for about 6 months[and he's gotten pleasure PLENTY of TIMES], and just recently he's tried to do the same for me. And I felt absolutely nothing. I felt it there, but.. no sensation. So yeah tried putting a finger in there and it hurt [that I felt] but after that, nothing. And just the other day we actually tried having sex and it hurt. So I can feel the pain but no pleasure. I can masturbate fine all by myself but I guess he just doesn't get my mood? Its weird. And just today I asked him what would happen if I had been faking this whole time and he said he would leave me because I should've told him sooner. Which is true, But I always figured it would take a while to feel it, and its been A WHILE! I was wondering if there could be anything I could possibly do to feel something! Because this is a guy that I would like to have a serious relationship and I DO NOT want a fake sex life. [im 18 fyi, he is too] So yeah, if you could let me know? :o

If you feel it when you touch yourself, it might be a matter of where he is touching and the pressure he is using. Also, another difference is that when you are doing it, you have a mental image or thought process that might be a lot different than in real life. It might be as simple as needing more foreplay.

IT is because you are not telling him what feels good and what does not.
You have to let him know how you enjoy things and tell him what to do.

You and he need to have some classes in female sex organs 101, he need to find out what your parts are and what part they play in you sexuality. Get some books with pictures. Then you explain to him what feels good and what does not.

When I was around fifteen my goal was to get my finger in her, that all no movement or anything but yet I thought I was rocking her world. Finally she told me that that did nothing for her and she showed me what to do. We finally drifted apart but she taught me a very valuable lesson and I have pleased one girl now for many years.

Two words, experiment, and communicate what feels good, and what does not.

If you canm alone they show him when starts make him stop and take over but make sure he is watching so he knows what to do