I'll try to keep this as brief as possible... there is a lot that went down prior to this, but basically, my ex girlfriend broke up with me not but two weeks ago, and while we dated, she seemed to be very eager to get to know my two best friends, one in particular. Well, she ended up breaking it off with me because I guess I got a little jealous that she constantly wanted to hang out with my best friends instead of me. Also, she claimed to only like me as a friend when we started and said it just never grew into anything more.

However, now I miss her to death (even though I shouldn't, because she wasn't very loyal and flirted a lot), and my best friend hangs out with her behind my back. He probably knows I know, but doesn't make a scene about it and I already told him once that it made me really uncomfortable that they became such good friends, but he just doesn't seem to care and says that he will continue to be friends with her and "I can't stop him." He says that he is just being courteous and doesn't want to blow her off just because I can't take the breakup.

I'm just worried that she dumped me for him secretly, and I have told him of my suspicions, yet still doesn't listen to me. He says he would never date her, but I know him all to well to just take his word for it... Am I right to be mad at both of them? Or am I just overreacting. I know if would be a different story had I broke up with her, but no, it was the other way around. I just feel replaced and like he doesn't give a rip about my feelings. What should I do?

Hey, well I read more than half of this... but I have to tell you...

You don't want a girl who isn't loyal to you. You don't want a best friend who doesn't have your back. Yes, no one is perfect. But you know you really have to draw the line somewhere and that is pretty idiot proof.

Here is a good quote, " if she is dumb enough to walk away... be smart enough to let her go!"

While I know your heart is involved and you can't just immediately turn your feelings off for someone... regardless how they treat you... I would just distance myself from them. You don't need people in your life who are going to bring dishonesty and drama!

I don't see any logical reason for people to be jealous over who their exs hang out with. You know, a friendship is a friendship, its not like he's going out with her.
Even if he is going out with her, oh well, you and her broke up, she's not cheating, they isn't breaking any rules, once someone breaks up they have the right to date whichever single person they wish, you'd be best just to maintain your good friendship and just try to keep yourself from being in situations where you are going to think about her too much, and just remember, a perfect person for you will come along someday, someone who will treat you well who you will truly love, and that is the person who matters, not this disloyal girl.

She used you to get to know your so called buddy. Leave them both alone and get better friends. Don't be mad at her too much though, as she tried to tell you she wasn't feeling you, so it not all her fault. You had fair warning.

Well, I feel where you're coming from. You really don't need the girl, or the best friend, if they're messin around behind your back. Yes, it's "fair" for them to do so, but it's just not right. The best friend, if he actually liked your girl, should at least have waited a bit before they started doing stuff, at least given you time to get over it.

Episode of friends about joey in the box? Yeah...

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Originally Posted by cal823

i dont see any logical reason for people to be jealous over who their exs hang out with. You know, a friendship is a friendship, its not like hes going out with her.
Even if he is going out with her, oh well, you and her broke up, shes not cheating, they aint breaking any rules, once someone breaks up they have the right to date whichever single person they wish, youd be best just to maintain your good friendship and just try to keep yourself from being in situations where you are going to think about her too much, and just remember, a perfect person for you will come along someday, someone who will treat you well who you will truly love, and that is the person who matters, not this disloyal girl.

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All right well believe me, I was using the Same logic up until this point... it's definitely a lot different when you're actually put in the situation. And just to clarify things, I'm still in High School. I'm a senior this year, and she is a Sophomore (already learned not to trust the maturity of anyone in high school). I've definitely learned over the past year NOT to take high school relationships seriously... most of them are just doomed for failure. Took me a while to come to that realization.

Anyway, the main issue with this, is that I inevitably see her everywhere because she goes to my school. Not to mention that my best friend's main group of friends is MY group of friends, and he gets pissed at me whenever I tell him that I hate her hanging around him when he is around me. It definitely doesn't help me give myself space from them. I finally had to straight up tell him to not have her hang around him if he is ever going to be around me or else I would never get over her. I tell them that I need to get space, and they call me ridiculous. I still talk to him... but we're not good friends anymore. I just... don't trust him. I'm still really mad at him for reasons I'm unsure about (and yes, mad at her too), but I told myself that I wouldn't spark up more drama simply cause my emotions start flying. That already happened once...

Your starting to see that you can't control others, geez, it hard enough to control yourself.