So I am really frustrated with myself. So me and my ex(jimmy) were together from December - May. We loved being with each other, spent every moment, we just overall loved having one another around. However, I am close friends with a lot of guys before I started to ever talk to jimmy, and there just my friends, nothing else. He never understood that though. The longer that we dated the more I was getting frustrated with having my boyfriend treat me as my dad. Keep in mind I am only 16 yrs old too. Anyway my friends started to hang out with these really cute group of seniors and in the group I guess you could say I was always the flirty one who the guys liked, but it changed because I had a boyfriend so I couldn't be like that anymore and I was fine and happy with that because I really liked jimmy. Though one night I decided to sneak out with all of my friends and I met this guy jeff who was older about to graduate and we really just clicked. So I hung out with him all the time behind jimmys back, and eeventually he found out and I left him for jeff. I don't know what it was about jeff but I liked the challenge, but I did cheat on jimmy with him even though it was innocent kissing but it made me feel like I should be with jeff and not jimmy. So I broke up with jimmy but now after jeff is gone away to college, I always see jimmy in the halls and it breaks my heart each time I see him because I just want to be with him and start all over but we don't even talk or anything. Whenever we see each other in the halls we look but then hurry and turn away knowing we got caught looking at one another. I'm so confused I would do anything to get him back. So some somebody with any advice can I please have it.

You don't want him back. If you really loved him you wouldn't have broken his heart to begin with.

I agree with mjl, you wouldn't have hurt him in the first place if you really loved him.
What you are going through now is guilt.
Just try as best you can to move on and find someone else.

I agree with both of the posters above. Boy you are in a really bad position. It's called guilt and being unfaithful as thereisno4evr stated and after you cheated AND lied boy jimmy must love you a lot (which he does) but you broke up with him so jimmy has about 85% or more percent to want the two of you to remain ex's.


I know that the truth is hard to say but girl I'm afraid you're going to have to find a new one and I am sure someone special out there is going to find you and think you're amazing.

I don't know if he would want you back or not, but looking at him won't tell him anything. You're going to have to talk and own up to it. Being afraid of what he might say isn't going to tell you anything either. You probably deserve it, but if you don't make the effort to appologize then you won't ever find out.

You can go on like you have been, or you can do something different by opening up the communication with him. Don't expect things to be like they were immediately. You'll have to earn the trust again if you ever do. You'll just have to see if the relationship can get past all of the things that have happened or not.

Well one thing that I left out is that like that we have talked about it and stuf and like we've hooked up a few times after and stuff its just were like shy one another now.

I already know that nothings ever going to be the same and I already told him the truth after I lied because I felt bad and everything so were over that part its just trying to get him back now. And were bestfriends with the same people.

Well were not really shy its just extremely awkward being by one another.

I have to question why you're so suddenly interested in getting back with Jimmy now that Jeff's gone off to college. It sounds like you've made Jimmy Plan B and that's not really fair to Jimmy or to yourself. It sounds like you're more interested in the security of knowing you have someone than you are in Jimmy.

No its not that at all. I just don't suddenly want to get back with jimmy... like I have ever since I left him but I hurt him so bad that I didn't want to go near him because I felt bad but like we talked about everything and stuff . Its just that I wanted to give him time. I don't suddenly want him to be like bam stefanie I miss you I want you back. I just miss being his friend. I don't really need him back as a boyfreind but as my close friend again because he's the one person that I could tell everything too. And I still do and everything and he tells me everything. I just miss him as more than my friend... and I still talk to jeff but were just friends and jimmy knows that I still talk to him .

Than tell him exactly that. Tell him you want to be his friend. I'm sure he'll understand, and would love to be friends.

Why would you hurt someone like that and go back into their life? I don't get it. My ex b/f got back to a woman who cheated on him with several guys, lied to him an left him for another man - whom she got engaged to. When that relationship stopped working, she contacted him again, while we were together. After we broke up he went back to her two weeks later. But now I found out HE IS JUST AS TWISTED an and sick as she is, so they deserve each other. I think that it is not healthy. I'm just waiting for her to break his heart again, she goes through men, like toilet paper. I just don't think it will be a healthy relationship.