I am married and have been married for 21 years, my wife and I have 3 kids together. I am a military member whom has had sporatic interaction with the kids. They have expressed to me that "I'm not there father" and that they're tired of there mom and I arguing over the divorce proceeding. Just recently they said that they didn't want to see me anymore. What can I do to sign over my parental rights completely?

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Originally Posted by 1onamission

I am married and have been married for 21 years, my wife and I have 3 kids together. I am a military member whom has had sporatic interaction with the kids. They have expressed to me that "I'm not there father" and that they're tired of there mom and I arguing over the divorce proceeding. Just recently they said that they didn't want to see me anymore. What can I do to sign over my parental rights completely?

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You can't sign them over completely they will not bastardize a child... the only way that can happen is if she gets married and the other guy wants to adopt.

Thanks sara so I'm assuming that you're saying that there is no complete way to give parental custudy to the mom. Although, it seems as though that is the way it is anyway. And I'm just a source of income for there convenience. Another broken system! Along with the rulings over spouses receiving half the retirement benefits of veterans, regardless if they were together or not or even if the veteran was dissabled in combat! Simply remarkeable! Thanks anyway!

The mother can be awarded full/sole custody with you having visitation.

Sounds like your only concern is to get out of paying child support... sorry that won't happen.

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Originally Posted by 1onamission

...there is no complete way to give parental custudy to the mom. ... I'm just a source of income for there convenience. Another broken system!

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You seem very bitter, but you are looking at this from a very one-sided point of view.

YOU decided to marry this woman. You took vows to support her. You don't say why your marriage broke up, but you made the decision to marry so you have to live with the consequences of that decision. The same goes for child support. YOU and your spouse made the decision to have children. When you did you took on a responsibility to support them. You can't just sign away that responsibility. You can give custody to the mother, but that doesn't relieve you of your responsibility.

Neither of these systems are "broken". Both are designed to protect either the spouse or children of a broken marriage. So the only thing broken here is your commitment to your marriage and children.

You are actually serious? I'd say do the right thing and support those kids. You will know in the long run if you have abandoned them, and you will be the one who has to look at yourself in the mirror with that knowledge. You said that you have only been there sporadically for them. Whose side do you think they are going to take? Show them through your actions if you still care. Otherwise, they will only be able to judge you based on what they experience. This is not a mission that you can pull out of when the political climate becomes negative.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Neither of these systems are "broken". Both are designed to protect either the spouse or children of a broken marriage. So the only thing broken here is your committment to your marriage and children.

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Had to spread the rep first :p

But I 100% AGREE with this statement.