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  • Dec 10, 2007, 07:36 PM
    MS LADY
    He doesn't seem 2 want me
    26 Yo Female With 29 Yo Boyfriend. Had A Baby Earlier This Year Has Had Sex Mabe 10xs This Year. What's Going On. We Went From All The Time 2 Every Three Months. I Am Back 2 My Prepregnancy Weight And My Body Did Not Change. He Does Not Go Any Where He Just Sit In Front Of The Dumb Computer Or Tv. My Feelings R Really Hurt He Makes Me Feel So Unattractive, When I Know I Am Very Beautiful Inside And Out. We Have Been together For Over 3 Years. Please Help What Can I Do. I Have Talk And Tried Everything.:( :( :( :(
  • Dec 10, 2007, 08:57 PM
    letmetellu
    Sometimes something happens to a male when his wife has a baby, he feels like he is no longer the king of the castle, and evens has a little jealousy. He also looks at his wife in another light, like a mother and not a lover. I am sure this does not kelp you much but it is so hard to understand. It happened to me and was several months before I ever felt the same again, if I ever really did.
  • Dec 11, 2007, 04:27 AM
    simoneaugie
    He may be suffering from depression. If so, he may need help getting out to see a doctor. If he has just become a screen addict? One who ignores you, expects to be taken care of, doesn't help around the house and leaves the toilet seat up too? Tell him to get off his butt, or get out.
  • Dec 11, 2007, 03:12 PM
    Richie the man
    What you should do is express the way you feel to him.
    And believe me its normal for some men to become abit lazy after time, you will probley never meet someone who will have sex everyday.
    Don't worry too much about it he might get a spark if you make him awear.
  • Dec 11, 2007, 07:27 PM
    Choux
    Most men lose that exciting interest in a woman after two years, according to a recent study.
    He may have found some sexual excitement using the computer in the person a cyber girlfriend... or perhaps porn.

    Don't be a complainer. No one likes a complainer. Think of what you can do to make yourself a more interesting individual... and what you can do to develop your sexuality?

    Can you arrange something fun for the two of you to do together? Like join a bowling league?

    There are so many things you can do to help yourself. :)
  • Dec 11, 2007, 10:14 PM
    simoneaugie
    I may be wrong. Dead wrong. But I still contend that if he does not show symptoms of a serious emotional illness, you should ask him to be part of the relationship or make room for someone else. Being "nicey-nice" to him is part of the problem. Guys, being nice does not work, hardly ever! Being creative and finding fun things to do sounds healthy. A screen junkie who is tuned-out will not agree to go bowling, or anything else.

    It is not the woman's job to never complain, clean up after him and just accept that he has found other interests... like cyber porn. She tells him what's up. He moves, one way or another. As far as him not wanting to have sex every day? Drop him! There are men out there who want to have good sex so often, it'll make your head spin. Shop for one.

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