Not wanting to go into details, but I have had my fair share of sex and have been with my bf for almost 6 months now and on each occasion that sex occurs its been all about him. In all the times we've had sex, he orgasms, but i don't. I was just curious of any tips i could get that i could pass on to him about how HE could make ME orgasm because at the moment sex is pretty uneventful for me...

Any advice would be appreciated.
Cheers.

Try 4 play before and keep it at 4 play until you have or going to.

Hmm.. maybe think back to your other partners. What would they do that could bring you to orgasm, and what is this guy not doing? Also, good sex isn't necessarily about what you do, but how you do it (or he does it). You say that it has been "all about him", so maybe you should get him to give you a little TLC. Sex should be something that you and your partner can talk about openly, so tell him what you like physically, as well as how you like to be worked up mentally. For examply, do you like to be in control? Or do you prefer feel helpless (in a good way). The other big thing about orgasm is that it is a learned response. Basically, if you don't expect to orgasm, and you don't think he can get you to, you probably won't, because your body won't "believe" it can orgasm with him. One mental exercise you can do on your own is to imagine him doing things to you while you bring yourself to orgasm. This way, your body will have a better response to him, because it will "remember" that it can orgasm with this person. Female orgasm has a lot more to do with feeling and emotion than physical action (as is the case with men), so it may be that you aren't mentally or emotionally into him, but that doesn't mean that you can't be, it will just be something you can work on. Hope this has helped you!

I have had the same issue and sometimes right or not I have resorted to using something to get me in the mood before we have sex not to finish with but to get me going after a little while your mind is able to link the connection between the two and the middle man hence the toy is no longer needed

Foreplay will help more then anything but most importantly tell him to stop hogging all the fun, the only diffrence between sex and good sex is communication so tell him your not orgasming and maybe he will try to help the process reardless of whether he can succeed or not at least you will have fun trying.

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Thank you all very much I will take all your comments into consideration and will let you know how things turn out.

Cheers.:)

He sounds young and selfish, Do what you know gets you off and tell him what you need. Get yours before he gets his.

First of all I would like to ask, is he doing anything to help you out? I mean, I'm not the world's greatest lover by any comparison... but I do engage in a decent amount of 4play before we get started, and most times, my girlfriend (well, now ex girlfriend... read my post) finishes, and the times she doesn't finish, I try to finish her after I'm done.

Is he trying anything before or after? Or is he the type to just go at it and then go to sleep? If he's the latter, you got to drop him. Granted, sex isn't everything, but I think it says a little bit of how much he's willing to put into anything to satisfy you.

Does everyone realize that this girl is 15 years old? Honestly, I don't feel we should be giving advice on orgasms to someone that is under age.

Wow. DEF didn't even look at that. Def changes things. Well... if that's the case...

HumanSiv, have you ever had an orgasm? Meaning, how long have you been sexually active?

I ask this because I dated 2 girls who lost their virginities at 15 and 16. For some reason, neither of them could ever orgasm... not with anyone. They both said that they've never reached climax, and it could be that to them, sex is something they jumped into. They weren't emotionally secure for a sexual relationship. Who knows?

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

wow. DEF didn't even look at that. def changes things. well...if that's the case...

HumanSiv, have you ever had an orgasm? Meaning, how long have you been sexually active?

I ask this because I dated 2 girls who lost their virginities at 15 and 16. For some reason, neither of them could ever orgasm...not with anyone. They both said that they've never reached climax, and it could be that to them, sex is something they jumped into. They weren't emotionally secure for a sexual relationship. Who knows?

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Yes I have had an orgasm before... I've been sexually active since I was 13. All my other partners(5) have made me orgasm but its just this boy that fails...