In three weeks I will be 19 and still a virgin. I am not looking for my one true love or anything, I just haven't found anyone that I trust enough with my body. It seems that everyone is doing it and I feel a little strange sometimes. I have friends that are thirteen and have already lost it. I don't care what other people do and I am not trying to fit in or anything like that, but ha..

Is this normal?

It's not only normal hun, you should be applauded for your morals and values.

This is a very smart decision on your part. Giving up your virginity carries a much larger responsibility than most people realize.

Good for you!! And don't ever cave in to peer pressure.

A recent study found that the longer a girl waits to have sexual intercourse in her teen years, the better more well-adjusted life she tends to have. Physical and mental maturity plays such an important part in female enjoyment of sex. One has to be mature enough to choose the right kind of men for partners.

Keep in mind that you want to have *an enjoyable sex life as an adult*, not learn to be used and abused by boys or men as a naïve teenager; girls are not toys for men to use. I recommend that women wait until they are twenty or twenty-one before considering having sexual intercourse.

Good Luck :)

Normal is an individual thing, and it sounds as though you know exactly what your personal "normal" is! Congratulations on hearing your own voice louder than others when it comes to your body and spirit. That's a gift that will keep on giving throughout your life.

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Originally Posted by Latonia

In three weeks i will be 19 and still a virgin. i am not looking for my one true love or anything, i just havent found anyone that i trust enough with my body. it seems that everyone is doing it and i feel a little strange sometimes. i have friends that are thirteen and have already lost it. i dont care what other people do and i am not trying to fit in or anything like that, but ha. . . . ?

Is this normal?

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You should be very proud of yourself. I was 18 when I lost my virginity. All of my friends where having sex and I always felt a little out of place because I was the only virgin left in our group. Then I realized than when other people would ask if I was a virgin and I said yes I got more respect for waiting and not being like everyone else. I wasn't looking for the right person, I was looking for a person who was really worth giving myself to on my own terms so that when I did do it I wouldn't regret it.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin.

I'm a 20 year old male that is, well built, attractive, confident, I have characteristics that I know girls appreciate and have come into the situation where I have had to tell two girls that I don't want to have sex. In our society it may seem weird for a guy (or girl) that knows he can get some to hold off even when someone is offering.

In my opinion even if it's not what most people in our society do, doesn't mean it's not normal or that it's a bad thing. In fact congrats on making it this far. Sex is supposed to be special... a sacred thing saved for marriage so there is nothing wrong with being a virgin!