I broke with a girl after 3 yrs because she gave nothing in the relationship, but its been a month or so and she insist we be friends. I've told her no I just want to move on but she won't take that as a answer. She calls, texts,emails... none stop. Just talking like nothing is wrong. I don't respond but she still writes giving orders like were still together. She still is angry about me saying she didn't give enough in the relationship, what's up with the friend crap? Does she still want me under her thumb?

Yep, basically. Ignore her if you want to move on, talking isn't going to help if she is still acting like a dictator.

Some times it takes a break up to realize how good she had it when she was with you. My guess is that she doesn't want to give you up. Realize that if you gave her the opportunity to be your friend, most likely she will want to get back with you as well.

Basically, like the post before me says, it is definitely time to move on. Just ignore her! Stop talking to her, and just move on. Get you a new girl, and that will alleviate a lot of .what she does (if she knows you have another gf).

Keep no contact as you have been, and eventually she will get the message she is not wanted, nor do you want to be friends.

Ex's as friends IS NOT a good idea. Usually there is some motive behind the friends thing. Maybe she wants you for the future, always knowing you'll be around or ca be contacted when the time is right. I say keep N/C and eventually she will go away.