I've been with my boyfriend since high school.. . We were each other's first everything. We came to college together and in our second year here started having problems. He said he needed time to think and figure things out but while he was doing that he was spending every night in her bed and has been having sex with her since we broke up and said we were trying to figure things out. .

Before I figured out what he was doing we had a great time going on little dates and he would talk about how he liked it and it was fun.

I finally made him choose between us and he said that he does care for her and wants to see how things go with her. Than I was like OK I guess I can't talk to you than.. . I told him how much I loved him and thought we could make it through anything and he said he thought so too and that I really was his best friend. He cried and we hugged and kissed when we left for the last time.

She's the kind of girl that's always at the bars, doesn't care what he does and has slept with numerous guys and broken up many relationships. She says this time she cares though.

I think it may be it's just new different and exciting for him but it worries me that he thinks he cares about her. He acts all OK around everyone but every time he talked to me before I decided not to talk anymore to him, he would still act like he cared deeply about me, and even said he tries to not think about things with me because it hurts and makes him confused and mad so he just pushes it to the back of his mind.

Im not sure if I should completely give up.. . Or if I should have no contact with him for about 2 1/2 weeks than ask him to hang out and flirt with hiim.. . Or should I just contact him at all? We've never really had not contact for any longer than about a week.

Any thoughts or suggestions on what to do.. . How to win him back?

I don't know why you would want him back if he cheated on you, I think you should lose him and find a new boyfriend who isn't a jerk.

Your boyfriend does as he pleases, and you have no control over it. If you have read your other posts, you would have it figured it out by now and there would be no need to keep asking questions about the same thing. Move on to better things, and stop beating this dead horse.

Once a cheat always a cheat if you take him back he will only go back to her once he gets bored again. You deserve better and don't expect other wise

Be willing to let him go and don't contact him at all, period. You gave him an ultimatum and rightly so, so now the ball's in his court. I'd start dating other people and forget about him. In my opinion you deserve better.

Heart wants what a heart wants... The brain isn't listening... that's why she wants him back... I've been there... probably still am and it's been a month and some days for me since she left...

However, I think you need to let him go and move on... It's the only way that won't make you coming back to this site after you guys break up again. Why does he get to explore and have sex with other people while you wait for him... So not fair...

We both need to move on!

Never get someone back that has done something like that.

Do yourself some respect and leave this person where he is.
And get yourself respect back


Regards