Hello, because of my fan... of a dad I'm now depressed my mate are all asking why and I'm taking it out on them, I just want to walk up to him and tell him to f off because he is really doing my head in and he think I got an attuted problem, its his fault that I have it!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

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Originally Posted by mackythehacker

hello, cos of my fan... of a dad im now depressed my m8 are all asking why and im taking it out on them, i just wanna walk up to him and tell him to f off cos he is realy doing my head in and he think i got an attuted problem, its his fault that i have it!!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

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What is it about your dad that's pissing you off ?

Try not to kick off with him because as soon as you lose your temper you look immature, angry and out of control and that's not how you want your dad to see you because he will lose any respect for you and totally stop listening to you

Try to keep in mind (and I know this is hard to see right now but it'll make more sense when you get to like 18[ish]) that parents do (as a general rule) do things to try to help their kids (but don't always go around it the right way)

If you can be slightly more specific as to what he's doing we might all be able to help you a little more.

You need to calm down and stop sulking and 'taking things out on your friends'
Your problem is with how your dad is acting towards you, so talk to him about it.
Notice I said TALK. Don't yell or scream, maybe a simple, why did you yell at me for...
And so on.

The problem is that me and my friends were meant to be going on a camp to bangour hospital (if you don't know what it is then its meant to be haunted) and I told him I was sleeping over at my friends, and the next day we were meant to be going to livingston to fool about and he though I was going to spend money and he said ''have you got money'' and I said ''no, I was only going to muck about'' then he started this BIG explantion about how its allways him and my mum who is handing out the money and things like that

One of the things you'll almost always end up arguing with your parents about (in your teens) will be money.

It might sound boring but suggest to them that you open a savings account, talk with them about how much you can afford to save and then keep up the saving, this will show them that you understand the value of money (basically that you realise that it isn't grown on trees).

Hopefully this will show them that you are serious about money and they will trust you more with it.

So you get a part time job, earn money and prove you are responsible,
Sadly parents often want the best for you, but teens don't listen.

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Originally Posted by mackythehacker

the problem is that me and my friends were ment to be going on a camp to bangour hospital (if you dont know what it is then its ment to be haunted) and i told him i was sleeping over at my friends, and the next day we were ment to be going to livingston to fool about and he though i was going to spend money and he said ''have you got money'' and i said ''no, i was only going to muck about'' then he started this BIG explantion about how its allways him and my mum who is handing out the money and things like that

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1. You did not tell us if you asked your Dad for money or expected him to give you some for your little 'adventure'

2. Have you ever asked your Dad if he ever did crazy and adventerous things when he was your age? He was not always and adult and parent.

3. Try telling him the truth next time and let him know that you don't plan on getting into trouble.

Believe it or not, we were once kids too and did crazy things - and can understand that our kids have to 'do their thing' too - just try not to be so rebellious and meet him half-way.

Good luck, and keep us posted. Parents too can be cool if given a chance - some of us even wish you'd share with us and help us bring out the 'kid' in us again.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif We don't expect you to be pefect from birth, and know it takes growing - you could let him know you can understand that...

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Originally Posted by Chery

1. You did not tell us if you asked your Dad for money or expected him to give you some for your little 'adventure'

2. Have you ever asked your Dad if he ever did crazy and adventerous things when he was your age? He was not always and adult and parent.

3. Try telling him the truth next time and let him know that you don't plan on getting into trouble.

Believe it or not, we were once kids too and did crazy things - and can understand that our kids have to 'do their thing' too - just try not to be so rebellious and meet him half-way.

Good luck, and keep us posted. Parents too can be cool if given a chance - some of us even wish you'd share with us and help us bring out the 'kid' in us again.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif We don't expect you to be pefect from birth, and know it takes growing - you could let him know you can understand that....

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1. I'm sorry for not telling you

2. my dad did do these kind of thing but he NEVER admits it he thinks he was 'perfict' that he never done things like I do, but I asked my nana and she says he did do things like me, and if I bring it up on him he tells he to shut up and get to my room

3. I never tell my parents anything.. well hardly ever because they allways criticize me on what I do and how its not right.

Sorry to hear that because I think you have just as much right to experiment and make your own mistakes on your path in life and learning - and think your Dad should know and respect that.

Try as best as you can to keep your cool and wait it out if possible. Some day you will be able to go your own way and leave this stage behind and I hope it makes you stronger. Don't let it weaken you.. I did, turned alcoholic, felt unloved and all it did was waste a lot of valuable years in my life. I did not have help of places or people like on here or therapy, it was in the 50's, but times and situations have changed now and there is help for you along your way. Just try to make fair choices that help and not hinder you, OK...

I wish I could hold you in my arms and tell you everything is going to be all right, or that your parents were more understanding, but that is wishful thinking.

You have our support here dear, and can talk to us any time - I hope you know that. I know how hard it is growing up, but so is eveything else in life and it depends on how we approach it.

Good luck dear, and stay with us.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_11_4.gif Consider me your Virtual Grandma. Hugs.

To chery: thanks, I'll keep that in mind that about you beening my virtual grandma :)

Hello Mister Mack,

Well I'm going to start by saying that your parents love you very much and sometimes they give you these boring lectures that you just do not want to hear, guess why because they love you. I am a mom a young mom Im 28 and I have a son he is 8. so if you do the calculations that means I had him when I was 20. It is very hard being a parent and trying to raise a young gentleman for both a mom and a dad. Sometimes we do not always make the right decision and we do things that hurt your feeling or even get you upset. But know this, we do the best we can hoping that we always make the right decisions for you. I bet that if you talked to your dad he would come to some type of common ground with you. You are a young a man and this is the time in your life where you are discovering what kind of man you want to become. Take a good look at you dad and ask yourself this question. Do I think that my dad is a good man, with good values and is he respectful. And if you could answer yes. Then you should definitely take his advice and listen to the lectures you don't want to hear sometimes because you would learn something every time. I know that you think that the adults who respond just don't understand, because we are older and we are taking your parents side. Believe me that is not true. We have all been exactly where you are and we know what worked and what did not work, because we already tried it with our parents. Mack you are very lucky that you have a father in your life that deeply cares about teaching you values and morales. Not many of us have had that opportunity. Try thanking him once and a while for being a good dad, and watch and see how he changes because you changed. Oh and try not to get so angry, I know it's hard but learning to control your anger is all part of growing up.