I have just broken up with a guy and am suffering for it. When we first met I had the gut feeling he wasn't all he made himself out to be but got involved anyway because there were other things about him that I liked. I called it my paranoia and decided to take a chance only to find out my initial feeling was right. This has happened to me before, should I not give people the benefit of the doubt and maybe lose somebody who could be really special. My husband left me for somebody else 7 years ago and I lost my marriage, house, dog, in fact everything within a year. I had to start again with 3 children and a pile of debts. I have come through all of this and forgiven him but I wonder if my gut feeling to other men (only those I could be romantically involved with) stems from this. So should I act on my gut feeling or not? I am quite happy on my own, when not going through the heartache of breakup. However, once I know he is not right I am usually too involved. Would be really interested to know of others who have learnt the difference between gut feeling and paranoia, should I walk away at the beginning?

Act on your gut feeling.
Gut feelings are always right
Learn to watch for red flags.
Paranoia is more where you try and talk yourself into believing something is wrong
Instinct and gut feelings are always right.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by helpme1954

I have just broken up with a guy and am suffering for it. When we first met I had the gut feeling he wasn't all he made himself out to be but got involved anyway because there were other things about him that I liked. I called it my paranoia and decided to take a chance only to find out my initial feeling was right. This has happened to me before, should I not give people the benefit of the doubt and maybe lose somebody who could be really special. My husband left me for somebody else 7 years ago and I lost my marriage, house, dog, in fact everything within a year. I had to start again with 3 children and a pile of debts. I have come through all of this and forgiven him but I wonder if my gut feeling to other men (only those I could be romantically involved with) stems from this. So should I act on my gut feeling or not? I am quite happy on my own, when not going through the heartache of breakup. However, once I know he is not right I am usually too involved. Would be really interested to know of others who have learnt the difference between gut feeling and paranoia, should I walk away at the beginning?

---

I have always found that my first feelings are usually the right one. There is this little thing inside that sometimes try to warn us but we are so consumed with wanting a relationship we ignore it. If your first thoughts are to run, then please don't ignore it. One day that perfect person will come into your life and your first feelings will give you a positive reaction inside. A peace that you have never felt before.

Be Careful because all that glitters are not gold!