My girlfriend told me she was thinking about another guy, so I broke up with her. There were other reasons that I broke up with her also. I still talk to her and she has told me she kissed this guy repeatedly. But her story just doesn't make any sense. There are many holes in her story. She says she loves me and misses me and that she doesn't want to kiss him anymore but contiunes to do so. I don't understand what is going on. Why would she tell me these things if she is, in fact, kissing him? Her story goes basically like this: she tries to kiss him and he says no. they never hang out but somehow they are "fooling around". She feels guilty for it but can't stop doing it. Where is the lie in this tale? Is she hanging out more than she says? Are they having sex (she says no, only kissing)? Is she not kissing him at all? Lol what is going on?

Why do you continue talking to her, knowing that what she tells you confuses you and I'm sure doesn't make you happy? If she loves you and such, she wouldn't being doing those things.

Yeah, why do you care?

She's a liar and a cheater, what's going on is that you need to find a girl who isn't lame, and not talk to her anymore.

I care because its confusing. There has to be some kind of reason for this behavior. I'm not so much worried about love, its more of finding out what's the lie. I know she doesn't love me and because of all this I don't love her, but I like to listen to people's problems and figure out an answer. Human actions are entertaining to me. I probably sound like an but its just a curiosity. Why tell me this stuff at all? Why say she loves me? Why tell a half truth?

She wants to keep you around in case she doesn't have the whole thing with the other guy work out, she wants to have someone to fall back on. A lot of girls hate being alone and so they lead boys on, lie to them, etc.

That's kind of what I was thinking also. I just don't understand why she would tell me that she kisses him but then tell me that they never hang out. I would think it would be the other way around.

She's confused and I think you need to back off... as in stop being her girlfriend.

Let her tell this crap to someone who isn't you. If she needs security and comfort while she's mashing another guy she's not sure about let some other warm body do the listening.

So she's confused. Poor baby. It must ruin the buzz when she's got her tongue in his mouth.

Buddy, I know that vicious. I want you to be pi$$ed... mostly at her, but it can start with me.

The person who breaks up or causes the breakup due to infidelity has been kicking this around, most of the time, a lot longer that the schmuck who got the shaft.

She's thought about it, weighed the risks, second guessed, and still said "to hell with it"...

Does she love you? Well sure. Maybe. She loved you before... I guess and you are the same guy. Is that enough? NO. it doesn't mean that love is enough anymore.

So... at this point you know, you think, that she's mashing with a guy she doesn't love or care to hang around, knowing that it hurts you.

I think you need to delete her out of your favorites.

If you accept her back, shed better be begging you, and on her knees. She's got a lot of proving to do before you should even care about what she thinks anymore. All you know is she isn't thinking about your best interests.

Yeah its funny cause I used to get really pissed whenever she would tell me about this guy and instead of NC I would say the meanest things I could think of to her just to hurt her back, but then I started thinking about what I possibly did wrong in our relationship, and there were lots of things. Things I need to fix before my next relationship so it will work out, so now I just want to understand what she is going through and why. Some kind of answer about that would be very benifical. Whenever I ask her she says she is confused and that I broke her heart... hurt her very badly... and doesn't want to talk about it. So I came here to ask the masses.