I am 22 years old I have a kid and been with the same man for 3 years and I have never had an orgasm... we have tried everything... I know that I should do it myself first,but that don't work for me, I have tried it over and over... I am about to give up... what should I do

You are probably so stressed about it that you can't relax. Don't worry about it, do what you feel like doing sexually, and in time, it will come.

As for how you get "there," the key is to stop focusing on wanting an orgasm. Surprised? Most people are, when they learn this notion. Also, the foundation for becoming orgasmic is masturbation, or self-stimulation. Once you learn your own, natural patterns for arousing yourself and achieving the release you seek, then you can translate that process into shared activities with your sweetie.

Use direct and indirect clitoral touch, think about sexually arousing images, words or actions (including looking at your handsome mate), and relax into the pleasure you feel. If you are worrying about not getting to the climax, you are literally stopping your own flow.

Once you master your own response pattern, alone, then you can teach him what your body needs to create, maintain and maybe even transcend orgasmic sensations. I suggest that you ask yourself if you are holding back from letting go with him, or anyone else. Orgasm can feel like a scary ride without guardrails, if you are a highly energetic lover. If that's true for you, then go slowly, taking time to build trust. Be sure to breathe, feel the pleasurable sensations that abound and give yourself the permission to fly!

Tell your man to spend a little more time on the foreplay.

Comfort levels- In order to make a woman orgasm you need to bring her down to her comfort levels. If she is not comfortable around you than she would probably never orgasm. In order to get her comfortable you need to give her what she wants and not force anything which she is trying to avoid. Remember the more comfortable you make her the better and stronger orgasms she would have.

Do a lot of foreplay- Foreplay plays a very vital role in getting a woman to orgasm and achieving the desired results in bed. Foreplay is somewhat the foundation which leads to an eventual orgasm. Most guys overlook this art and tend to jump right into intercourse. Remember long sessions of foreplay are very important in order to get long sessions of intercourse and multiple orgasms.

Take it slow- One of the major reasons most women do not achieve orgasm during intercourse is simply because their partner likes to do it too fast and before the woman orgasms the man's done. It's very important to match your partners speed and comfort levels as sex is something mutual.