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  • Dec 2, 2007, 12:22 PM
    CUXC17
    I broke NC after a week last night, it didn't go so well
    I posted my story with my ex girlfriend under the heading "Blind-sided break up, think i can fix it" Well we ended up at the same party last night and she started acting normal around me, asking me how a final I took went, and then just asked me how I was doing. After some time I just couldn't take it and asked her if we could go outside and talk. She said I had given her plenty of space and that she was ready to talk. She seemed very happy that we were talking. I told her that I realize I was being too clingy and told her I didn't want to be like that and a very sincere, open conversation. She agreed with everything that I was saying. Yet she still said that she is happy being single right now and that she just doesn't think she's willing to be in a relationship right now. She said who knows, maybe in a year or so down the road. She says she doesn't want other guys or anything like that, she just needs to be by herself. We got in a cab and went to another bar. We were with a group and everyone could tell there was tension. We proceeded to get hammered and then our friendly talk turned into an argument, which turned into her storming away from the bar. I called her roommate to make sure she got home okay and I could hear her crying. I had made head way earlier in the night but then completely shot myself in the foot. I did exactly what I said I wouldn't. I showed her how hurt I am and made myself look weak. I feel awful. Should I give it a day and then apologize to her? Maybe something small like a Facebook message?
  • Dec 2, 2007, 01:18 PM
    madaman
    I think space is the answer. Let her cool off, and let her come to you to talk if she wants to.
  • Dec 2, 2007, 06:14 PM
    LivingtheLifeinFLA
    "Yet she still said that she is happy being single right now and that she just doesn't think shes willing to be in a relationship right now."

    Girltalk defination: I just haven't found someone else that I am interested in. But when I do, I will all of a sudden be ready. (Then she will tell you something along the lines of "It just happened, I wasn't expecting it"

    She's done, move on.
  • Dec 2, 2007, 07:24 PM
    talaniman
    Even before the argument she told you as nicely as she could she is moving on. Apology? A card will do, time for you to accept this breakup, heal and move on.
  • Dec 2, 2007, 07:31 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I wanted to give some rep to talaniman. He is right on!

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