I am 29 y. and I have a Great Boyfriend. We've been together for 1 1/2 years and we moved together a little bit more than a year ago. He is very nice a perfect guy in many ways (we haven't spoken about getting married or anything like that).
But 2 weeks ago I met someone at work, nice guy, he invite me out and I said no because I have a Boyfriend. He apologize and we become friends. I can't deny that I was attracted to him. I talked with him in a party and after that I can't stop thinking about him. Then we go for coffee and lunch at work together and even look at each other when we met in a party (when I go with my boyfriend). We spoke a lot about us, and I feel a lot of chemistry between us, and I really like him (should I be ashame of myself?)

I can see he likes me, he can be very obvious and I don't want my friends from work to think that something is going on, because I DON'T UNDERSTAND! I FEEL VERY CONFUSED.
I know if you are with something you are not supposed to get involved with no one else, but I wasn't looking for that... also If I love my boyfriend, I AM NOT SUPPOSED to feel attracted to someone else, and that is what confuses me the Most!


I am new with this, but I can't talk with anybody else because all my friends & family love my boyfriend...

I also feel very guilty... like If I would be cheating on my mind...

The new guy invited me to a smart function, very special one, that only few people from work is invited, my boyfriend probably will let me go with him, because he knows is a very special function (1 life time opportunity) and is only a friend from work, but I feel guilty of even ask him.. and what people would say...

I am not go to play with my boyfriend's feeling... I want to tell the new guy that I can't keep this flirting/talking game (is going to cost me a lot) but what happened if I make a mistake...

I will appreciate any honest opinion!

Thanks

=)

Hey Corin,

I do not think you should feel guilty about liking someone. Perhaps this is an obsession of the mind, you may be infatuated with him right now, or may be you like the attention of knowing you could have someone else.

I remember meeting a girl and I thought she was soooo pretty, I was depressed for about a week because I knew someone that pretty and fun was out there but I could'nt have them (she had a b/f) after 2 weeks it went away and I was left wondering what the heck that was all about?

I would back off the flirting, if he knows you have a man than he should respect that and not make advances, how would he feel if he were your b/f?? Try being more distant for a week or two and see if your feelings change, if not than it couldbe something deeper.

No Prob,

Let me know what happens K.

If you love your boyfriend, and it sounds like you do, don't cheat on him and don't be dishonest with him.

The new guy is attractive yes, doesn't mean that you are a bad person for noticing.

Just make it very clear that you love your boyfriend and are not looking for another relationship with this man. And the way that you are describing the back and forth flirting. I would skip going to this function with this man.

This is just my opinion.

Uhm OK,I 've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I am in love with him... I love everything about him and I will never leave him for nothing... the problem is that there is this guy at work that I find really cute and atractive ,he is good looking :eek: and ii really like the way he dresses.
I've kind of waited for him to ask me out for such a long time and one day it happened... he invited me to go see a movie nothing else.ofcourse I told him that I am not with my boyfriend anymore.
I agreed to go out with him but then I felt bed about it.. I invited 3 more people from work to join us so we won't be alone...
After 2 weeks he keeps texting me and texting him back but I wanted it to end in my mind because I know it was not right but in my heart I wish it never ended.I told him not to text me,call me or talk to me anymore... but now I feel sorry because I think I really like this guy and of course he dosen't want to talk to me anymore,oh well,.
So no don't fell guilty at all ,you are young and when your going to be older u'll be sorry that you haven't meet more guys... NOW I WANT TO GO OUT WITH HIM BUT IT'S TO LATE!! GO OUT WITH HIM BUT DON'T TELL ANYBODY...

Do not go out with him and not tell anybody. If you really love your boyfriend you need to realize that if you get anymore involved with this guy it is only going to complicate things even more. You find something about this guy intriguing does that mean he would love you as much or more than your boyfriend? Very likely if you dumped your boyfriend for him he could end up not being everything you imagined and then you dump him. Then you wish you were with your boyfriend again. Work relationships rarely work out and most often they are only a flirty thing where one or the other really wasn't seriously interested. Stick with your boyfriend unless you can say you really do not love him.

You only met this guy two weeks ago. That really isn't long enough to say you are in love with him. You are in love with your idea of who he seems to be.

It is nice to hear what other people have to say about boyfriend's and how they feel about each other