I am a male 53 who does not drink and has no trouble with an errection. I have EXTREME difficulty ejactulating and it is embarrassing to me with my new girlfriend. I do NOT do alcohol, or any illegle drugs. I do take cadura and Celexa that both can cause sexual problems BUt I don't know how bad. I hate stop taking medicines. I take a blue diamond (viagra) once in a while but ejactulation is almost impossible. I can stimulate myself to ejactulation but I feel makes the situation worse and It still takes me a while. Can anybody help or give advice. I'm going back to NY in a week HURRY PLEASE!!

It's suppose to be normal for sexual response to change with age. The older a man gets, often, the more stimulation he needs to get an erection and ejaculate.

Delayed ejaculation can be triggered by anxiety about performing in your partner’s presence. Or, it can be from the medications your taking, but sometimes there are physical causes. You should talk to your doctor, he or she may be able to recommend a treatment for you.

Hi,
At 63 yrs old, I have never had this problem! I am not sure if it's normal or not.
I do agree with seeing a doctor, explain it to him/her, and get some Professional advice on what to do. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

Here's my idea,

Why do you consider this a problem. You should look at it as a possitive. You have a new girlfriend and with sexual relations, the longer you last without ejaculation the more stimulation both you and your partner will feel.

Am I right, or wrong?

Joe

Hi joe. Its not a real problem but I do like to finish the job and orgasm is the best feeling in the world. There must be an easy logical answer to my problem. Thanks thurstee98

Trustee98, it must be distressing and very frustrating for you, but with some help from an expert you can defeat it the problem. Retarded ejaculation is often treated by reducing anxiety and learning to control the timing of ejaculation. You should seek a sex therapist and take your partner with you, the therapist will educate you how to communicate and guide your partner to provide stimulation that will eventually make you achieve ejaculation. The therapist will also teach you how to engage in sexual activities in your own home that minimize performance pressure and maximize focusing on pleasure. You should consider this option if you want to have an enjoyable sex life with your girlfriend.

Thank you ofr the advice. I still think it is the medicines I am taking as I never have had this problem until about a year ago. Also I cannot stop taking the medicine. This is the best solution I have heard so far though. Thank you Thurstee98

Your welcome.

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I am a male 53 who does not drink and has no trouble with an errection. I have EXTREME difficulty ejactulating and it is embarrassing to me with my new girlfriend. I do NOT do alcohol, or any illegle drugs. I do take cadura and Celexa that both can cause sexual problems BUt I dont know how bad. i hate stop taking medicines. I take a blue diamond (viagra) once in a while but ejactulation is almost impossible. I can stimulate myself to ejactulation but I feel makes the situation worse and It still takes me a while. Can anybody help or give advice. im going back to NY in a week HURRY PLEASE!!!!!

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Look at it this way... many women would enjoy that as YOU will not be finishing just as they are just getting started... don't worry about it and it. Its likely as much a mental issue as a physical one... stressing over it will only make it worse.


There are plenty of guys who suffer the exact opposite problem... (thank god I never have)

Seeing as you have a new girlfreind its understandable that things may not be all that smooth at first.I suggest you be more relaxed and above all talk to your girlfreind about the problem and the two of you work together to solve this.Yeah the meds may have a lot to do with this but since you can't stop taking them then you must work around them,and an understanding partner can help,At 52 you can imagine I'm not quite the stud I use to be but having the same woman for 30 years,who is very easy to talk to and understanding too... I have no problems,just fun.The key is being comfortable and talk to each other,Instead of trying for the big finish do it till the big finish comes all by its everlovin' self,and enjoy every second,or minute,or hour, whatever!A situation is only a problem if you don't enjoy it.If you look at your problem as a blessing in disguise then maybe It's not a problem!:cool: :eek:

For me this problem has rece
Ntlyg these tarted and the origin for me was stress and now all I think about is ejaculate. My staying power is worthy of a gold medal. However in reading these comments I have to re think and forget the ejaculate and enjoy the pleasure without it as down the road I know it will happen and the worry does not help. I have an appointment w/specialist so until then...

Hi. I'm having the same problem and I'm in my late 20s. Some time I envy minute men because I work hours and while satisfied girls I sometime just to tired to finish. Funny thing is I could do the job myself in minutes alone.

I smoke, light drinker and do no drugs of any kind.

I think this is because my partner isn't hit the right buttons for me or not responding the way that gets me exicted. Or another thought I had was maybe I'm too dehydrated. Anyway this is my 2cents and I'm still looking for my own answer

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hi. I'm having the same problem and I'm in my late 20s. some time I envy minute men because I work hours and while satisfied girls I sometime just to tired to finish. Funny thing is I could do the job my self in minutes alone.

I smoke, light drinker and do no drugs of any kind.

I think this is because my partner isn't hit the right buttons for me or not responding the way that gets me exicted. Or another thought I had was maybe I'm too dehydrated. Anyways this is my 2cents and I'm still looking for my own answer

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There is a lot you say and feel it is more of a partner issue as I have ventured to other activities and won. I also feel the meds can sometimes alter what they try to help ED