Hey I'm 18 and I have never been in a relationship never had my first kiss or anytning... lately I have been really down because all my friends have boyfriends and girlfriends and I'm the only one who doesn't... when I'm around girls I shy and I don't no really how to flirt with them.. I always just become friends with them and that's it... what should I do... im 18 and I have never been kissed that's pretty pethatic right... I really want to meet the special someone but I cant.. and ideas about how to get a girl and were to find them and how to flirt with them...

PLEASE HELP... I NEED A GIRL IN MY LIFE... THANKS

Sounds like you're in the "I want one cause everyone else has one." If you're really just looking for someone for that reason then you're not ready for a relationship. Give it time and don't stress about it. When you find someone who likes you then you'll know. Don't be afraid to talk to girls, what really is the worst thing they can say? "No?" Trust me when I tell you if she isn' in to you and doesn't want to be with you then you're better off. Why wish to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way for you?

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Originally Posted by Kingofkings

Sounds like you're in the "I want one cause everyone else has one." If you're really just looking for someone for that reason then you're not ready for a relationship. Give it time and dont stress about it. When you find someone who likes you then you'll know. Don't be afraid to talk to girls, what really is the worst thing they can say? "No?" Trust me when I tell you if she isn' in to you and doesn't want to be with you then you're better off. Why wish to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way for you?

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Thanks for the advice... im in the situation like I'm ready to be in a relationship not "i want one cause everyone else has one"... but I do believe though whole thing on I will find someone...

I don't think you want one because everyone has one. I think you see everyone with their boyfriend/girlfriend and it makes you realize more how much you really want someone to share your life with. First off, you are 18 and you've never been in a relationship. Don't worry about finding that "special person". Maybe that is your biggest problem. Maybe you are trying so hard to find the "perfect match" that you have set your standards too high. Use some of your interests to your advantage. For instance... let's say you like to play pool. Go to a pool hall. Find girls that also like to play. This way at least you have some common ground, an icebreaker. Don't try cheesy pick up lines, they rarely work. There are ways to talk to girls though. The most important thing is to be yourself. I know that sounds cliché, but it's true. Don't act differently around chicks. I know it's hard to not get stuck in the "friend trap". If you hang out with a girl and it seems to be going that way, give it some time. Don't hang out with the same girls for long periods. Let them contact you instead. Good luck hon and I hope I've been at least a little help. Hope things work for you.

<3 Leslie

Ps. Don't rush things, just try to work on being yourself and being secure with who you are. The rest will come!

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Originally Posted by nkychic

I don't think you want one because everyone has one. I think you see everyone with their boyfriend/girlfriend and it makes you realize more how much you really want someone to share your life with. First off, you are 18 and you've never been in a relationship. Don't worry about finding that "special person". Maybe that is your biggest problem. Maybe you are trying so hard to find the "perfect match" that you have set your standards too high. Use some of your interests to your advantage. For instance...let's say you like to play pool. Go to a pool hall. Find girls that also like to play. This way atleast you have some common ground, an icebreaker. Don't try cheesy pick up lines, they rarely work. There are ways to talk to girls though. The most important thing is to be yourself. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. Don't act differently around chicks. I know it's hard to not get stuck in the "friend trap". If you hang out with a girl and it seems to be going that way, give it some time. Don't hang out with the same girls for long periods of time. Let them contact you instead. Good luck hon and I hope I've been atleast a little help. Hope things work for you.

<3 Leslie

ps. Don't rush things, just try to work on being yourself and being secure with who you are. The rest will come!

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Hey your exactly right that's how I feel about the whole my friends being in a relationship... I your right about trying to hard because I'm just now realizing I am trying to hard... thats for the awsome advice your good.. you should be a counsolor or something... but I'm also very pickey and I need to be more broad and I want that perfect person and I think your right about that to... I need to let myself realize there are a lot of people out there that like the stuff I like... thanks again

Have you ever have special feelings for one girl?