I casually dated this girl over a year ago who was really, really, really into church. Then I moved away. She said over and over and over and over and over again she wanted to keep in touch and be there for me. When I said that doesn't happen, she argued with me, and insisted she would. Then a little more than a year ago, she stopped replying to E-mails as often. A year ago, the last E-mail I got from her was that we'll definitely keep in touch.

She did not reply to calls or E-mails after that. I left her a plea in Dec 2006. I sent her a graduation gift in May 2007 with a letter about how disappointed I was. Never heard from her.

I learned she is getting married in two weeks to a pastor.

OK, so I'm sort of vindictive. Should I send her some really nice flowers and say, "I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you. I don't know where you are or what you are doing, but you said you wanted to keep in touch with me."

I wish I had sent a ton of red roses for Valentine's Day. That would have really forced something.

I'm terrible.

Aww.. well just go for it you are only alive once.. I recently told someone I liked them.. it went terribly wrong but at least I tried..

Wasting your time and money buddy. I've sent flowers myself and I'm sure many others here have as well. For many and different situations. You won't get any response. I wouldn't bother wasting your money on her. Won't change a thing.

I imagine you want to ruin or spoil her day - sending flowers would do that. How grown up is that? Just let it go. Then find some other worthwhile activities to fulfill your life.

Or worthwhile girl...

Yea, I don't know what I was dreaming about last night that cause me to post this morning.

I am actually engaged. I told my fiancé and she started laughing.

She reminded me of this past Valentine's Day when this guy she had dated for a month, 7 months before, showed up on her doorstep with a big thing of flowers. He told her she was the only one he ever loved. She called me and we started laughing a lot.

Everyone who has heard me talk about the ex said they think I dodged a bullet. Everyone seems to like the one I'm with.

Thanks for reading.