My Husband calls me names.
Sometimes my husband calls me names (that which will not be repeated)... but when I think about his family life and the environment that he was raised in... I understand where it comes from. I have spoken with him multiple times about the way it makes me feel and have calmly and rationally asked him to stop, and have even had to resort to telling him point blank it needed to quit or the marriage was going to have an abrupt end. After sitting down to chat (which mind you is pain staking for him... he doesn't tolerate it very well or at all) the problem seems to be resolved and then resurfaces a few weeks or a month or so later. Any helpful hints for helping him to understand where I am coming from? I find it extremely frustrating and heartbreaking... because he will say that he was "just joking" when there are times I would just love to give it right back to him. However, I try to refrain and try my best to live by the rule that you treat people how you want to be treated.