Ok I have been dating this boy for almost 10 months and we are always fighting and he is very jelous about everything. I really love him a lot he was my first and I was his and I really just don't know what to do... We have tried to fix it and everything but it just goes back to him getting jelous if a guy even says hi or I look at a guy in the hall at school. I really need to know what to do I really don't want this to be over.

I hate to say it, but you come here for advice so I'm going to be honest with you. It sounds like you both need to take a break. Jealousy stems from either lack of trust or a guilty conscience, either way it's not good. You have to have trust to make any relationship worth while. Maybe if you both take a short break from each other you will be able to figure out what is truly important to you. You can decide what you both are willing to sacrifice to be happy. This relationship right now is going nowhere fast. Don't dig yourselves any deeper. Yes it's true that a relationship takes work, but it should never seem like that is all you do. While you are both working so hard to make this thing "work", life is flying right past you (along with your happiness). Take some time apart. Who knows, you may find that he isn't the guy for you after all, or maybe he'll realize that he was silly to get so jealous all the time. Don't let anyone control you or who you talk to. Live it up baby girl! You only get one chance to live out your dreams, don't let one failed attempt screw it all up.

<3 leslie


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Originally Posted by stacimartin24

Ok I have been dating this boy for almost 10 months and we are always fighting and he is very jelous about everything. I really love him a lot he was my first and i was his and i really just dont know what to do.... We have tryed to fix it and everything but it just goes back to him getting jelous if a guy even says hi or i look at a guy in the hall at school. i really need to know what to do i really dont want this to be over.

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If he's jealous he's unlikely to change on his own if you just keep coming back. Why would he? Take a break say for a month and tell him that he needs to learn to trust you. How old is he?

I think you two need a break from each other and see if things change later. If they things are still the same, don't stress yourself over him try moving on. I know its hard but you can love a man whose jealous about everything. I'll tell you something I learned in my interpersonal speech class that I still carry on till today, YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANY ONE BUT YOURSELF. I always try to remember it and it helps me a lot and it might help you too.

GOOD LUCK!