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  • Nov 27, 2007, 08:18 AM
    chrysler300cv8
    Not the regular Relationship.
    Hi! I'm a 14-year-old guy, and there's this girl I met one day, whom I made friends with, and grew very fond of; Now I want to take the next step. BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW!

    The good: SHE used call ME really often, the "I'm bored, lets talk" Kinda things... She trusts me quite a bit 'n even gave me her email password. We talk alot on instant messenger, but she does these weird things like give me goofy nicknames, this "Poking you for fun" thing and take pictures of me with her cellphone.
    The bad: We've slowly been growing apart. She's not in my school.
    The Sad: SHE's OLDER! (By two Years!) And its like a brother sister thing. All the other girls I talk to, say they would never date a younger guy at that age.

    I Haven't felt the same towards anyone since I met her. (Which is a pretty long time!)
    I'm really intimidated by the two year older thing! (That, AND rejection)
  • Nov 27, 2007, 12:09 PM
    BiWiccanAndProud
    Dude in life you will grow to like people, you will ask them out, and you will either be excepted or rejected. You just got to surge forward and take that step and hope for the best. Just tell her you like her and want to know if she would go out with you.
  • Nov 27, 2007, 10:09 PM
    mwilliams15
    I agree with BiWiccan.. You have to take that chance or else you are never going to know what might have been.
    Im 19.. almost 20.. my boyfriend is 18.. so you never know!
  • Nov 28, 2007, 02:27 AM
    chrysler300cv8
    Thanks BiWicca/mwilliams! But the reason I posted this question was because I've been through a lot of the questions on this site, but none of them really address how to approach older girls, because like, older girls are smarter and more mature than you are, and you have respect towards them, so it makes the situation more complex. I kind of want to know if you guyz think she might like me back, or if the things she's doing are regular girl stuff.
  • Nov 28, 2007, 07:43 AM
    BiWiccanAndProud
    Well in some cases it is regular girl stuff that she is doing. I do that stuff a lot with my guy friends, especially the poking thing, but I also do that with my boyfriend so it's hard to go off that stuff that you mentioned to know if she likes you or not, but I'm sure she does. And approaching a girl only 2 years older then you is not any harder then approaching a girl your age. It's not hard. I'll never quite understand why guys make it out to be so hard to ask us out ^.^ when it really isn't.
  • Nov 28, 2007, 05:34 PM
    mwilliams15
    You need to be confident and mature enough to approach her.. Girls love a confident guy.. A guy who isn't too scared to walk up to her and tell her how you feel.. rejection? Don't worry about that.. Worry about coming across as a confident guy. Also, if you want to be with a girl 2 years older than you, you better be mature enough to handle it. I know its only two years, but in two years people can grow significantly in maturity. Do you think you are responsible and mature enough for her?. meaning you know how to treat a girl the way she should be treated? Are you ready to spend a lot of time with this girl? Can you handle the fact that she'll be leaving for college 2 years before you will? These are all things you need to think about.. but if you just act natural, mature, and confident (without coming across as cocky) then there's a chance shell go for it.. but if she rejects you.. it should be no big deal.. she may just think you aren't quite mature enough yet.
    Good luck though.. just go for it.. its as simple as that and don't try to make it harder than it really is.

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