My ex broke up with me twice and we ended up becoming friends. She doesn't know what she wants because I think she likes me again but I never stopped liking her. Should I go for it?

Are you ready for the roller coaster ride of dating someone who doesn't know what they want? It'll make you go insane and also end up hurting you more and more. Be careful.

--Cali

With all due respect dear, you've been through this twice now. What makes you think this time will be any different. I think you need to let her go. It seems as though she's just keeping you at arms reach so that if she ever needs anything she'll have you. You are playing a big role in her "Plan B." Don't make yourself so accessible to her. Let her go and live your life. Maybe she will grow up a little and decide what she wants, or maybe you'll decide that she's NOT what you want. Either way has got to be better than this on and off again relationship.

Good luck

<3 Leslie

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my ex broke up with me twice and we ended up becoming friends. She doesn't know what she wants because I think she likes me again but I never stopped liking her. Should I go for it?

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Unless some significant time has passed like a year where you both have grown, away from each other you're on base with two strikes batting against Nolan Ryan. Look him up.

No, stay away.

Let me help you: If a girl "does not know what she wants..." it means she does not want to bave a relationship - but she enjoys the friendship.

Bad for you if you are seeking a relationship.

Stay away.

Rest assured, it's not your job your to convince her... In fact, if you try you will only convince her you are not worth it. I know it's crazy, but it's dating 101 for those under 25.

But she always calls me I try no to answer it but I end up doing it anyway

You have a choice--yes or no. Say no.

Then stop talking to her and responding to her comments and questions. Walk away. Hang up.

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my ex broke up with me twice and we ended up becoming friends. She doesn't know what she wants because I think she likes me again but I never stopped liking her. Should I go for it?

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Run, now. You'll be better off in the long run. Being with a woman like that is a serious roller coaster ride and it can last for years. She's just keeping you around because she is indecisive on what she wants. I know that feeling, just get away from her. Say goodbye, cut off any communication you have with her and find someone new. There will be others.

I think you should give in another try

[QUOTE=nkychic]With all due respect dear, you've been through this twice now. What makes you think this time will be any different. I think you need to let her go. It seems as though she's just keeping you at arms reach so that if she ever needs anything she'll have you. You are playing a big role in her "Plan B." Don't make yourself so accessible to her. Let her go and live your life. Maybe she will grow up a little and decide what she wants, or maybe you'll decide that she's NOT what you want. Either way has got to be better than this on and off again relationship.

Good luck

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But she always calls me I try no to answer it but I end up doing it anyways

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No matter what anyone tells you here, in the end you will do what you want to do. That is fine but remember it is very likely that you will get your heart broke once again, and for all the heart brake and time that you waste with her you could be on your way to healing and finding someone better. The heart knows what it feels but it never considers the consequences. Think with your head and save your heart for someone who will cherish it.

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But she always calls me I try no to answer it but I end up doing it anyway

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How often does she call?

About once or twice a week but when I don't answer it sometimes she gets upset and sends me a message on Facebook telling me to call her when I get the message.

So what?