Hard time with chcild support payments
I was married for 10yrs, divorced my husband due to his cheating ways, I was also diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, I have 2 girls, they lived with me, until I had a hard time taking care of them, then my ex husband had them live with him, he had a better job, own business, a house, etc. He remarried and has another son now. I have been paying child supports all along, I had to move out of NY, becouase of cost of living and he was giving me hard time to see the girls, went to court hundreds of times, never got naywhere, because he never folllowed the "rules". He would just rather me be out of their lives. Well, he went to court and asked for an increase in payments, they gave it to him by "default", I wasn't notified of the court date and failed to show up. I have moved back to NY, waiting for housing to open up for me, and fighting to get a decrease, they will not give it to me, because I have not had a change of circumstances. I can't afford a lawyer and they will not give me legal aid, not enough in the grant. My income is $632 a month, He gets $412. And I live on $220. I receive SSD and SSI. I have written to so many people as to what I can do and everyone tells me I can't do anything. I haven't seen my girls in 2yrs and I would rather not give up my parental rights just to see if I can stop making payments, I thoug about it, and thought maybe I can just send them money on my own. What else can I do? I can't live on this and I have no where to live right now, my medical bills are growing too. My girls are 16yrs and 9yrs old. Please help!
