How do I deal with my husband having a child with another woman?

If my husband cheated on me, it'd be divorce-ville and I'd sue him for everything he was worth, but honestly, the choice is yours. You can deal with it kindly, or you can try to get your just dessert. Have you talked to him, or a close friend or family member yet?

I agree with Charlotte234s!!

If you've forgiven him for the cheating then you can get through this. The best thing to do is to establish your marriage make sure you want to be with him and he wants to be with you and not the other woman and make sure she knows it too. Then you'll have to have some sort of relationship with this woman because as his wife you'll be in the child's life so the two of you need to come to an agreement. Especially if you already have children with your husband, you guys should talk and find a way to deal with it together. Trying to do it alone isn't going to work. You need support in a situation like this. Its completely understandable if you don't want to discuss it with your family and friends, its an extremely touchy situation. If necessary seek counseling with your husband. To reconnect with him and keep the lines of communication open. For your marriage to work you have to be able to trust him.