OK so my girlfriend had sex like before I started dating her with her last boyfriend and well a lot of went on like after she did it with him he left her, but that's not the point the point is that I'm not sure if I want to stay with her I can't explain why I don't want to its just a feeling I mean I love her so so much but I just don't know want to do if anyone could give me some advice on this matter I'm all ears.

Do not worry about what she did before she met you. Just don't let anyone pressure you into doing something your are not ready for . It has nothing to do with love if you are not ready. And just because 'everybody's doing it' does not mean you have to jump right in.

Take your time and at your pace, she needs to respect that. You'll know when you are ready. Until then, just have a good time getting to know her and share common interests and fun.

Remember, no pressure...

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif There is a big difference between love and lust and you'll know it when you feel it.

Well yeah I know its just that like I just can't get it out of my head and I mean I know ill do it when I'm ready its just the fact that she did it and told me with such detail me and her both wish she never told me

Man up dude, just because your chic had sex with another guy it ain't the end of the world and it don't mean that she can do it again. It don't make her any less of a person because she had sex before you. When you get married are you going to look down on your wife and not love her because she had others beside you. Just realize your not the only guy in the world and just like us guys women have needs as well. Hope this helps, but honestly don't put something good to the side because of something like that

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Well yeah i know its just that like i just can't get it out of my head and i mean i know ill do it when im ready its just the fact that she did it and told me with such detail me and her both wish she never told me

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So what... imagine the table were turned around and she'd be upset because you slept around.. come on.. get real.

By the time both of you reach my age, you'll have made a few more mistakes, but that's life... and there is no use crying over spilt milk.

Go out and live life, enjoy it, get to know each other and if you have common interests and feel strongly toward each other, get emotional, get close, hug, kiss, yell at each other, laugh with each other... in other words be humans and do human things and forget about things that you cannot change because that's a waste of valuable time.


http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_11_2.gifYou either care for each other now or you don't, forget about the past.

honestly u love her right? Well then get over that feeling and stay with her if u love her love should come first i met this bot wen i was in 9th grade and we started datin i was his first and he was mine we were inspirable u and i am now 30 years old and we are still married and sleep in in the same bed and have 2 beautiful children so fallow ur heart ok hun trust me on this

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All right thanks a lot

Talk to her.

That depends on your sexual experience.it sounds to me you're a bit shy.

I have the same problem but she did with 2 people. One she only knew for less than a week. I know all about it because she told me in detail as well. I had never had sex before her. I have been with her for more than a year and she is 16 years old now. This problem gives me the worst feelings I have ever had and it happens all the time. Im scared to hear things that remind me of her past. It's really hard to stay together even though I love her like a family member.

Errr I knoww what you mean mate am having the samee problemm with my girlfriend I cantt help thinking about it and that am not the only guy that she has slept with :( I need helpp becausee if I don't I might affect my relationship :(

Here's the thing, just like a guy, a girl is a sexual being and is human. Their past sexual experiences rather enrich themselves but if they've got a screwed mind they'll be stuck with their past. That's where the trouble is, when she talks about a topic that matches with these activities. The subject about sex has been misguided, therefore the girls, as we know, they tend to want to learn faster, they try things that turn out to be things that they later regret as per societal preferences. It's also not fair that because of this she is condemned for life and becomes a sex addict. At least become her friend and guide her properly if you can.

Therefore keep in mind that these previous experiences enrich themselves and will contribute to you because now she loves you. Moreover, wherevr she goes does not matter; if she returns to you and recognises your heart, trust is just the outcome. With love, lust propulses to achieve blissfulness. Right now you are the chosen partner. So stop feeling insecure and live life, reality. Anyway we're all equipped with a sexual mind, emotions, organs, we cannot act blind to that. It's just the experience part of true education. In fact tell her that your a different flower and bring your own originality that will make her remmber and thank you for her whole life.

I had the same problem but just that my girlfriend is still virgin in all aspect except oral. I could not handle that because I have grown in a family where sex has been considered to be an addiction if not used in the right time mutually, 'whereby mutually at that time it makes you reach stars lol'. But if you can stop being an addict and wait again for that time, nothing is lost.

'Only you can make yourself happy, and through others, you make yourself happy in multiple effect.'

Sorry my english is not so good, please see things deeper.