What is the best way to breakup with Fiancé? We have dated for 18 months and I realize there is just no way I can marry him... I'm just dragging on, knowing I have to do this and I want to before Christmas. His family still thinks we are getting married and my family knows my intentions... I've hope for change for way to long. There is a trust issue.. not w/cheating but in general and I'm a Christian and he's not. He is all about self not a giving person at all, not affectionate,never compliments me,doesn't want me to work(but I am now,I just started 11/24)... I go to community college but he doesn't want me to further my education... I'm positive, he's very negative... he loves to watch TV all the time and I would love to go out... we can't even go to a mall without a fuss or him being very uncomfortable and me knowing we need to just leave before it causes a fuss... We talk but there's a lot of quietness... I could go on... If he does something to hurt me and I confront him about it he gets mad at me and turns it around... This guy has never hit me but he does have anger issues... he has done some really bad things and is probably the most selfish person I have ever known... so, I don't know whether to confront it head on and breakup in person ,try to make him mad so he'll break up w/me( my family doesn't think he will breakup w/me) or write a letter to him... I've cried and talked to people and they understand and they don't think I need to drag this out but... I don't really think he is the most stable person either... this is my first real relationship... I'm 20 ---he's 20. Thanks for listening...