Confused/What is her deal?
I am 18, attend College and recently have been seeing someone (Something I turned away from since my past relationship).
I dated my exgf for about a year and a half, and it wasn't the prettiest relationship now that I look back at my "blinded love."
Since then I have done what I did before I dated her; casual dates/party scene; lived the single life, and very well have enjoyed it. We broke up about 9 months ago.
About a month ago this girl came into my work and was very cute, hit it off and what not, added me on Myspace (haha) and we talked a few days over that, exchanged numbers and began to talk a lot more via texting.
She asked to hang out, invited her to a little get together my friend was having, talked for a few hours and ended the night with a kiss. Nothing big to me.
Next day hung out with her and did the same thing later on in the night; been here done that type thing.
Normally at this point I'd start backing away, but didn't. Kept seeing each other, and now found myself falling for her; same thing she stated to me- and something I really didn't want to happen.
So here comes my gripe basically :x.
Last weekend she asked to hang out Friday when I got off work, called her said she was with some friends and can't now; said OK have a fun night, texted me and such for the rest of the night. Next night said lets hang out, made plans; but she ended up meeting up with some old friends that she got into a fight with a while back. At that point I was annoyed with her, and just ignored it. Went out to dinner with her last Monday, hung out and such. Weds we made plans because I was going to be out of town from Wed-Friday morning and worked Fri night/Sat night. Ditched me again basically; said she forgot she had already made friends with some of the girls, invited me to come along; then later said she didn't know what they were doing and such. Annoyed the crap outa me and said have fun bye. Asked if I was mad at her and said she was sorry wanted to see me before I left etc. Said no, and just left it at that.
She called me on thanksgiving to see how it was going and such. After that didn't respond to her text and called her today during break because my friend called me a dummy basically to ignore her if I like her. Asked her for dinner tonight; had plans with one of her friends, but maybe tomorrow and continued to text me after the phone call.
Asked her a while ago to do movie/lunch before I work; didn't respond.
I don't get it, and this is why I have strayed away from dating a girl beyond lets have fun to be honest. Now I have found myself liking her, a lot. (Obviously posting asking for some advice).
Her friend asked me how and her were doing, said no idea to be honest, asked what I wanted and such, and told me also to play hard to get because she likes more of a challenge to be the dominant person in a
As for me and my mentality if I am going to date someone beyond the casual have fun. I don't do the small games. I do not chase girls (The mere fact is I do not have to), and it seems I have now been doing that. On a daily basis I can meet any girl I want to and turn something into it, very outgoing person and a rather good looking guy also.
The conflict I have is what to do with it. Normally when a girl plays hard to get (what she seems to be doing) I just say bye. But with her, I do not want to. First girl I would consider becoming serious with since my ex, and thus has made me rather flustered with the whole bullcrap going on.
If she doesn't want to hang out, state it; do not go back on it or wind it out. (This really annoys me because I have blown other people off to allow some time for her, then for this to happen).
I am confused with her, and having trouble deciding what to do. My options in my opinion are to just shrug it off, ignore her and let it go, or talk to her about it.
-Keith
