Ask Me Help Desk - 2 Years Behind

Next year, my boyfriend (17) goes to college 45-60 minutes away. I really want to enjoy the last year I have with him in school with me, because he won't be home every weekend because he's leaving his car at home. I'm 15 years old, and I probably am wrong about a lot of things about how I feel about life, but I feel I can be partly right too... We've been going out over a year, and to change everything next year will be extremely hard for me, I'll still be doing high school, the last 2 years, the hardest, and without him. But we love each other and don't want to break up. I keep thinking of scenarios that could happen, even if we do love each other, like he'll decide to drink because he was pressured to, and he'll make a stupid decision. I feel I can trust him, but really, everyone has at least one drunken mistake in life. I also accept the fact he will make new friends and spend more time with them than me, but I just want to know if they're good people. I'm just caring for him and making sure that he'll be all right when he starts to begin his new life in a new town. I just hope I won't endure the heartache I keep thinking about, that we've never been apart for more than a week and this will change, I might not see him for a month at a time, and that other girls might notice him and I won't be there to fight them off, haha .
My question is, based on what I've said, do you think I'm kidding myself thinking it will work out, or do you think I'll end up with my heart on the floor? Or do you think that our solid relationship will pull through...

All I can say here dear, is that all three options are possible. And that you will have to deal with them as they come. Getting riled up over something that has not happened yet can curtail your current time together and change the atmosphere negatively. So do your best to enjoy the time you still have together as much as possible and keep the negative feelings at bay.

Life has no guarantees, no matter how old we are, we just have to take it as it comes and then make appropriate choices on how to handle them.

I hope that the option you wish for comes true for you and that everything will be OK.

Good luck dear, and keep us posted.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif We can only control ourselves and our reactions.. remember that.

thanks for your post. I'm dealing with it but I was just curious to repost so I can just look at them between now and later. I was worried people wouldn't see it. Things however are great right now, even though currently I am a little annoyed with him but no worries. I'll keep posting =]

I had the same experience as you, at the same ages, with my boyfriend going off to college. We had agreed that each of us could date without the other feeling bad, but of course each of us did feel bad when we dated others. He came home as often as he could, was about 2 hours away. It was a two-year ag program and we survived as a couple. Then it was my turn to go away to college. We had the same agreement about dating. Two more years went by and our relationship survived eventually survived about six years. It turned out I ended up marrying someone else, and he did too. That was forty years ago. I hope, with communication so much better nowadays, that your experience will be more positive.

Wow, that's such a story, and I'm glad the time you had with each other was good. I believe that with good communication we'll be fine. Because I truly do love him, and he loves me. :)

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I had the same experience as you, at the same ages, with my bf going off to college. We had agreed that each of us could date without the other feeling bad, but of course each of us did feel bad when we dated others. He came home as often as he could, was about 2 hours away. It was a two-year ag program and we survived as a couple. Then it was my turn to go away to college. We had the same agreement about dating. Two more years went by and our relationship survived eventually survived about six years. It turned out I ended up marrying someone else, and he did too. That was forty years ago. I hope, with communication so much better nowadays, that your experience will be more positive.

Now there's email and IMing and Skype and reasonable phone rates. We had only snail mail, with weeks in between letters. And be sure to talk with each other about EVERYthing.