Hello, I'm new here and stumbled upon this website trying to search for answers. Me and my g/f have been going out for about 4 1/2 yrs now, and I have reasons to believe that she's cheating on me. To make a long story short, I was at work and she had just gotten off from work and she came by my job to drop something off( we don't live together, we met in high school and are now in college but still living with parents). So she came by and we were sitting in the car and we were talking for a little and I decided to "feel" her, and she was unusually wet, like when we have sex, and so I questioned her about it and at first she says that she doesn't know why its like that, then she goes on to say that every now and then she'll get discharge, and I've felt it before when she's had discharge and it was nothing like what I felt when we were sitting in the car, and just to reiterate, it was just as we as when we have sex. I've been having suspicions but now I'm almost certain that something is going on. But to be honest I don't know much about femal anatomy when it comes to how things like that operate, but I'm pretty certain that it can't be normal or just discharge for her to be that wet, so what should I do, I want to believe her, because we've been together so long, but feeling her that wet is making it really hard to believe her.:(

A woman's vagina and whether it is dry or not is largely affected by hormones, they do not have to have sex to make discharge, so honestly, if this is the only suspicious thing that's happened, I don't think so.

This isn't the only time or only suspicion I've had. Normally if she's about to have her period and I don't know and I feel her, the fluid is more of a thicker discharge and doesn't make her really that wet at all, it usually is very little or sometimes dries at the entrance and when I feel her it would be dry and I could feel/see the residue, and what I felt when we were sitting in the car very much contradicted what I normally feel when she's getting her per.

I don't understand completely!
But I always believe woman only got feelings for their man whom they love so much! Only street girls or women like that have feelings for any men! Should it be like that?

Oh, it could completely be hormonal.

Ever get an erection at a really inappropriate time and place, even if there was NO reason for it?

Happens to women occasionally too. Well, it happens to ME occasionally, anyway. I just get wet, for no reason. Sometimes, I'll be really wet, just from thinking naughty thoughts. Sometimes I don't get wet until there's some foreplay involved.

Sounds kind of like the times most guys get erections, right?

As far as her being wet, maybe she was just really happy to see you. I don't think her being wet is a good enough reason to suspect that she is cheating. For that matter if she has something to hide I don't think she would be letting you put your hand there. I will say though that unless a person just has a jealous nature, insecure or are just naturally suspicious of others, then most of the time if you think someone is cheating they probably are. I would hope that you don't make a practice of trying to determining if a woman is cheating by feeling up her crotch... that is just creepy!

Oh dear. What you are describing is normal cyclic variances in discharge-totally normal. The mucus (wetness) you are talking about varies in colour/texture and viscosity over the menstral cycle. I think you may need to read this...
Cervix - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia and this:
Billings ovulation method - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I think that if that is the only reason that you have for thinking she is cheating on you. You might be a little insecure or paranoid. This is perfectly normal. Maybe she was masterbating before she came to visit you and was too embarrassed to say. Women's bodies are a mysterious thing. Are there any other reasons as to why you think she may be cheating on you?

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Originally Posted by stonewilder

As far as her being wet, maybe she was just really happy to see you. I don't think her being wet is a good enough reason to suspect that she is cheating. For that matter if she has something to hide I don't think she would be letting you put your hand there. I will say though that unless a person just has a jealous nature, insecure or are just naturally suspicious of others, then most of the time if you think someone is cheating they probably are.
insecurity is definately not an issue for me, i'd say that she does, but don't get me wrong, i certainly don't think so because i see now reason why she would be insecure about her self, its just things that she does sometimes that make me think that she's insecure, like when she see's other women with... larger boobies, or what she calls, "watermelons" she always start implying or saying, "go ahead right there, couple of watermelons for you." I think its silly that she does that, but from time to time i begin to think that she's a bit insecure about herself when she see's other girls like that, she's not extra large like other women are, but then again she's not extra small either, and i like her just the way she is.

I would hope that you don't make a practice of trying to determining if a woman is cheating by feeling up her crotch....that is just creepy!

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LOL please don't get m wrong, that would never become a habit, if anything I got that from her because she's always grabbing me, even when I'm at her job and no one is around, so we're pretty comfortable with that. But uhh, yea, definitely not a habbit, well, maybe for us, but I certainly wouldn't be doing that to someone that wouldn't be very comfortable with it.

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Originally Posted by Xrayman

Oh dear. what you are describing is normal cyclic variances in discharge-totally normal. the mucus (wetness) you are talking about varies in colour/texture and viscosity over the menstral cycle. I think you may need to read this...
Cervix - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia and this:
Billings ovulation method - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

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The explanation in the link helped a bit, thanks, now I'm a bit more relaxed. I just really didn't expect that much wetness just from discharge.

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I think that if that is the only reason that you have for thinking she is cheating on you. You might be a little insecure or paranoid. This is perfectly normal. Maybe she was masterbating before she came to visit you and was too embarrassed to say. Women's bodies are a mysterious thing. Are there any other reasons as to why you think she may be cheating on you?

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Yyeaah I'm going to ignore the first part of that as that would further my suspicion as to why she would be masterbating at work. But to answer the second part, there was one instance where I was on the phone with her while she was at work, and she saw an old friend and they began talking AND flirting, and I was still on the phone and had to listen to the whole thing, and later when she's all finished,she saw the phone and realized that it was still on a call and she picks up and actually says that she had forgotten that I was on the phone, which was bad, VERY bad. Luckily for her I was more forgiving and I've somewhat put that behind me, this was a while back. But I'm not on the phone with her all the time of course, cause then that would make me really paranoid, but then again since that happened, I can't shake the feeling that it could've happened again.
But I guess now you can kina understand where I'm coming from with this and why I started thinking that from feeling her that wet and not knowing why she was.

And Happy Thanksgiving day to all.

My comment about her masterbating was at the end...

Anyway, she could have been masterbating thinking about you... Why would her masterbating make yous suspicious despite where did she it at? That wouldn't mean that she was cheating on you.

And some women just are naturally flirty, or them being really nice could be miscontued as flirting.

But yes, it was bad that she forget that you were on the phone...

I don't know, I'm still not hearing anything that should give you reason to think she is cheating.

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Originally Posted by stonewilder

I don't know, I'm still not hearing anything that should give you reason to think she is cheating.

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Yeah, that was my point..

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Originally Posted by omae20

there was one instance where i was on the phone with her while she was at work, and she saw an old friend and they began talking AND flirting, and i was still on the phone and had to listen to the whole thing, and later when she's all finished,she saw the phone and realized that it was still on a call and she picks up and actually says that she had forgotten that i was on the phone, which was bad, VERY bad. Luckily for her i was more forgiving and i've somewhat put that behind me, this was a while back. But i'm not on the phone with her all the time of course, cause then that would make me really paranoid, but then again since that happened, i can't shake the feeling that it could've happened again.
But i guess now you can kina understand where i'm coming from with this and why i started thinking that from feeling her that wet and not knowing why she was.

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Well if she was on the phone the whole time you must of heard everything?And if she was just chatting to someone (whilst you could hear) she didn't have anything to hide... otherwise you wouldn't still be with her, if for example she exchanged numbers or arranged to go out with them... she did none of the above. This leads me to how is it you are forgiving?For forgiving her from talking to another guy? Is this not allowed then? Do you class yourself as a little possessive perhaps?
Also if she had just got jiggy with someone when you suggested a little "feel" she would have made her excuses and left, you were at work so she wouldn't have been unreasonable under these circumstances to have said no got to go.

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Originally Posted by omae20

Hello, i'm new here and stumbled upon this website trying to search for answers. Me and my g/f have been going out for about 4 1/2 yrs now, and i have reasons to believe that she's cheating on me. To make a long story short, i was at work and she had just gotten off from work and she came by my job to drop something off( we don't live together, we met in high school and are now in college but still living with parents). So she came by and we were sitting in the car and we were talking for a little and i decided to "feel" her, and she was unusually wet, like when we have sex, and so i questioned her about it and at first she says that she doesn't know why its like that, then she goes on to say that every now and then she'll get discharge, and i've felt it before when she's had discharge and it was nothing like what i felt when we were sitting in the car, and just to reiterate, it was just as we as when we have sex. I've been having suspicions but now i'm almost certain that something is going on. But to be honest i don't know much about femal anatomy when it comes to how things like that operate, but i'm pretty certain that it can't be normal or just discharge for her to be that wet, so what should i do, i want to believe her, becuse we've been together so long, but feeling her that wet is making it really hard to believe her.:(

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Sounds like to me she was excited to see you!

Take it from another guy that has drove past relationships into heartbreak because I drove myself mad thinking a whole bunch of scenarios of how my girl must be cheating on me and covering it up somehow. This girl loves you enough to be with you for 4 and a half years. I've come to teach myself not to get worked up about these things. The woman that loves you and that you love as well will at some point grow tiresome of such acquisitions. You might end having to post another question on this website that involves the title " she said she needs some space ", and that my friend would be a complete game changer for you. For not only will you have to deal with the thought of losing her, you will in fact lose her entirely! This is tough love bro but listen. At the moment that she says she needs her space due to your constant hurtful acquisitions you will then begin to continue to call her because you will feel that the only way that you can get her back is to apologize non-stop about your actions. This will push her so far away that she will welcome the idea of trying something new and refreshing after the constant barrage of mistrust and the arguments thereafter. Love her as much as you possibly can and take a deep breathe and trust her. This woman loves you so much that she has spent the last 5 years of her life being with you. This sounds like a beautiful thing you got here and I implore that you give way to trust because that is the only way you can avoid the dreadful end of such a thing that is surely coming.

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Cheers,