Firstly, I would like to thank those who in my first request for advice in my situation gave there much sought after answers. I was really appreciative and I told my boyfriend about my infidelities and knowing that there could be a possibility that he isn't the father of my unborn child. I guess it was a relief to him and for awhile my conscience was clear, but it seems like somehow my load got heavier and I really don't know what else to do.
I'm now 31 weeks pregnant, though my "boyfriend" promised to be supportive, he's really shown his disinterest in my pregnancy from day one. I feel messed up because I irresponsibly chose to have this baby and didn't consider the consequences that would reflect on this baby. The ex-boyfriend that I cheated with won't even answer my phone calls or address any issue that has to do with me. We spoke months ago, when I told him that he could be the father of this baby and since then I've written a letter to him regarding the subject, but he is reluctant to talk to me. I tried talking to my close friends about the matter, but eveyone tells me "that I have to decide for myself what I want to do". But that's the thing, I have no clue what it is that I can do about it. When I try to contact either one of the possible fathers, I feel bad for even getting them or myself involved in something like this. I know because of this baby, this situation deserves action.
So should I keep trying to contact my ex boyfriend until he decides to pay attention to the situation? Should I keep at my "boyfriend" in hopes that he'll come around about the baby, even though it's causing me emotional stress? Maybe I'm just being selfish... I don't know. HELP!!

Keep trying, no matter how hard it is, to keep contacting the possible fathers, you will need that child support because I feel that your "boyfriend" won't be there there for too much longer. Actually, I wouldn't blame him if he left you, you did cheat on him.

I would not try to contact the fathers, especially the x who is ignoring you, yes you cheated on your current but you are now 31 weeks pregnant, a heavy time when you just want the pregnancy over with.Are you thinking about how you being upset (constantly) will/is effecting baby, you need to be thinking positive thoughts. You will have to deal with the feelings of your current boyfriend and paternity after you give birth to the baby, I hate to say it but he is a grown man and the newborn baby needs you more.You can't deal with everything now, its physically and mentally impossible.After you have baby you can do a DNA test to determine the father and then go on with your life.
Please stop stressing its not good for either of you!!

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Originally Posted by Nalomeli23

Firstly, I would like to thank those who in my first request for advice in my situation gave there much sought after answers. I was really appreciative and I told my boyfriend about my infidelities and knowing that there could be a possiblity that he isn't the father of my unborn child. I guess it was a relief to him and for awhile my conscience was clear, but it seems like somehow my load got heavier and I really don't know what else to do.
I'm now 31 weeks pregnant, though my "boyfriend" promised to be supportive, he's really shown his disinterest in my pregnancy from day one. I feel messed up because I irresponsibly chose to have this baby and didn't consider the consequences that would reflect on this baby. The ex-boyfriend that I cheated with won't even answer my phone calls or address any issue that has to do with me. We spoke months ago, when I told him that he could be the father of this baby and since then I've written a letter to him regarding the subject, but he is reluctant to talk to me. I tried talking to my close friends about the matter, but eveyone tells me "that I have to decide for myself what I want to do". But that's the thing, I have no clue what it is that I can do about it. When I try to contact either one of the possible fathers, I feel bad for even getting them or myself involved in something like this. I know because of this baby, this situation deserves action.
So should I keep trying to contact my ex boyfriend until he decides to pay attention to the situation? Should I keep at my "boyfriend" in hopes that he'll come around about the baby, even though it's causing me emotional stress? Maybe I'm just being selfish...I don't know. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

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This goes out to HollylovesBrandon, and I thank you for you commentation. I know I posted my question up for it to receive advice. Sincerely I thank you. Before you can say that you wouldn't blame him, you would have to know him. In no way am I justifying my actions, I think it could've been a better way to go about things, but it's more to the situation. Everyone is human, a while you may feel that my choice to cheat while I was in a relationship kind of cuts into my character. Nothing should justify his absence. I was adult enough to cheat and handle to consequences, then he should be able to stand beside me unfaltering. After all isn't that what a relationship is about? Just because a person has been proved to be wrong, doesn't mean they have to stand hand and hand with it. In light of the holidays, I approach you with a humble heart, God Speed and God Bless. But most of all thank you.