I thought we were in it for the long haul
It all started a few weeks ago I walked in the door to my 22 year old (I just turned 23) husband acting weird and saying we need to talk. Before I go into detail let me give you a little insight on the situation I got married to my high school sweetheart two years ago September, and we have been together for 6yrs from the beginning, and I am two months pregnant. He kept insisting on getting pregnant for months and it took me a while and I finally came around and agreed so we got pregnant. Anyway, he recently told me our relationship revolves around me and I am selfish. He said he didn't know if he still loved me and didn't think he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He thinks we need to do other things than without each other. (which I understand that) Granted we are dependent which comes with being together for so long at such a young age. So we could stand to be more independent. So he said it would be better if I left for a while. So I went to stay with my sister. A couple of days later he calls and says he is sorry and he knows he loves me and does want to be together. A week and a half pass we talk and argue but we talk about all his thoughts, then I gradually start talking about my feelings within a few days. He freaks like I am just being selfish and I didn't even listen to him. So, he relapsed and everything is back to what he said in the beginning. He said he doesn't think he loves me. I am at my sisters house again. I love him so much and this will be my first child. I was in tears because he hasn't tried to help me throughout all the morning sickness and gets upset if I ask for anything. So I have been going through this pregnancy alone. He is also a police officer and has a lot of stress in the workplace. He has only been on for 8 months or so. I have never seen this side of him. Please help! :confused: P.S We are young and have a lot of responsibility We own a house and are married and trying to start a family. But it seemed like we were ready what happened?
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To add a few updates and happenings to my story after the first time he told me these feelings and he wanted me to leave I was gone for 2 days before he called me telling me he was sorry and resinded the feelings. Within those two days I talked to our closest friends and family (the few that knew) they said this wasn't him and he was just out there. I also talked to our pastor which has been there for me times before in other situations and I pretty much had the same responses I have had. He called my husband and after my husband had talked to him he is upset at my pastor and some of the responses he has received. People that know him and I everyone has always thought of us as a perfect match, and they are concerned about my feelings and me and don't quite give him the attention to his feelings he deserves. I have tried to talk about counseling and got a definite no. And a week and a half later he wanted me to leave again. So what else could I do? To add another situation to the story one of his friends had been staying with us for about a month. And he's pretty much put himself as far in the hole as possible (no credit previous drug problem and no establishment and no car). I didn't think he was as respectful as he should have been to us. So I would say things to my husband about him being dirty and we had pretty much lost our privacy and time together (he works overnight 4 nights of the week.) In those 3 nights it was our time and he would be staying up playing video games or whatever rather than being with me. After try after try to tell my husband he needed to go he finally told him he had to leave. This guy pretty much did what he wanted before and always stayed with someone for a while. My husband wanted to help with all his problems but eventually we had a situation ourselves. I don't mind sometimes but right before I remember feeling neglected. We had shared our feelings he has not told me all but I have asked and asked and he is in his own world and has to come back to me. I feel unfortunately, like I have to give him space and let him want me again on his own, he doesn't want me home. I don't think I should keep going to him. Like I would be making it worse right now. Oh, but I want to. I love him more than ever. I need his respect and want as well as his love.
I think he feels like I am so desperate and always there because I have been fighting for our marriage and trying everything. Should I go to him again?