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  • Nov 20, 2007, 02:59 PM
    Monroevonoh
    I don't know what to do anymore
    I dated this guy for about 9 months. In this time I wasn't the greatest, I was going through some things and it started to bleed onto the relationship. It wasn't all bad though , we were very very close . We both loved each other very much and both cried when it was over. We said we would be friends, but in time I told him that I can't pretend that I'm OK with hearing and seeing him out on dating sites and he said the same to me as well. Whenever we spoke , it was always about " us" and it just wasn't healthy anymore in trying to move on . So I finally said for him to not talk with me for a few weeks , he agreed. I sent him a message after a few days just saying hello and that I was fine and I'm sure that we will talk soon. He hasn't gotten back and its been a day and some and I know he has gotten the message. I got a little mad but I can understand that he's trying to move on and do what I asked of him. Still though its rough. I still think about him all the time and I am constantly going through the 5 steps. Anger, grief, denial , acceptance , however it goes.. over and over again. I can't get over this man , I always want to know how is doing , I always want to talk with him , the thought of him sends all these emotions and memories to me . I'm OK with moving on , I know we need time. But that doesn't mean he doesn't consume me , it seems. Does he feel the same way? When I think of him , is he thinking of me too ? Are we ever getting back what we had? Will I ever see him and be with him again? I honestly feel a great connection to him .

    My birthday is October , 26, 1985 - and his is sept, 9, 1980 Virgo man and Scorpio woman.
  • Nov 23, 2007, 11:53 AM
    kitten94515
    Get back with him, give him space for a while though. He needs time to think, as do u. but it sounds like love that was damaged. I would get back with him.
  • Dec 8, 2007, 07:10 PM
    lilred40
    There's an old saying: "If you set something free, and it comes back to you, it was ment to be". If you're that much in love with this person, then tell him! Tell him your feelings. Get back with him.
  • Dec 8, 2007, 07:30 PM
    Homegirl 50
    This is all a part of the process. Stay away like you said you would. Give yourself sometime. Don't contact him anymore. If you two are meant to be it will happen in due time, but use the break to do the thinking you need to do.

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