I am in love with a girl who has a boyfriend, we have seen each other and have made love, but she says that she is still in love with her boyfriend.

I have told her how I feel about her, yet when I ask her how she feels about be and whether she loves me her answer always is Maybe.

What do I do in this case, I like her a lot and want to be with her.

She now says she only ant to be friends.

Please help.

Yours sincerely

Out of my mind

Say she breaks up with her boyfriend and starts dating you, What makes you think that she won't cheat on you? I know that is a harsh question but think about how crazy you will get if that happens. Let her go man you will be much happier later on in life.

A tough yet common spot to be in. Everything is in her court. She has all the options and time to play around with her options. If you've enjoyed the intimate contact it might be best to ride that as long as you can but to bring "commitment" into the mix probably won't work. This is a very exciting time for both of you because of the discretion and the cross-over in intimacy. So don't confuse the pounding heart and intense desire with love, commitment or long term monogamous bliss; just won't happen and she knows that. If it's a mater of winning her over go for it but remember for every "YOU" there will be hundreds of "THEM" waiting in line as this girl tries to control the grin on her face.