I have been dating a married man for about five months, nothing is official, but I am falling in love of him. We can only see each other when we escape form our friends and family.
Other point is that he just finished to built his house, and he is working also to be elected as reprsentative of his county.
I have been thinking to ask him to leave his wife, do you consider that is a good idea?

I think it's a bad idea, honestly, because it will ruin his career and he will lose his home most likely to his wife, but he kinds deserves it for cheating on her. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, it's just that cheating really hurts the other person and it's breaking the commitment that someone makes to another person.

Ask him but we all know what his answer will be and then you'll be forced into making another bad decision; being with a man you'll be sharing with another woman. In the long term I fear one or both of you will get into some deep sheep dip so be prepared for that. In the mean time enjoy pleasing him all you want or at least till he decides he's been pleased about as much as can be had and then you'll not be faced with any decisions at all. Good luck to you and his poor wife.

I think it's an excellent idea because you will see that the relationship is not what you think it is.

Didi

I think that is horrible. I know I am entitled to my opinion as well as everyone else. But goodness. Can you just put your feelings aside? That is so wrong, so wrong. How would you like it if you were in love with someone and they did that to you? What makes you think he's not going to get tired of you and act like trash as he is now? He may butter you up.. but remember he once buttered the little wife he has now up... and promised to love and honor her all the days of their life.
I think you need to cut it off and find an available man. It's wrong.

Morals aside, I still don't recommend it.
No matter how much you love him and he loves you, he's obviously not a reliable partner in that regard. I'm sure he once loved his wife as much as he cares about you, and it's possible that he still does. If you ask him to leave her, he might refuse, or even decide to break it off with you. But even if he agrees, he's liable to resent you for it, as a messy divorce will cause a lot of havoc in his life. Even if you're happy for a while, with a history of cheating he might get bored of you after a while too.
Another important issue - does he have children?

I know this isn't what you wan to hear, but I think it would be best for everyone concerned if you leave him. If he really loves you, he might decide to follow you, leave his wife and win you back. Chances are though, he'll want to stay in his comfortable marriage, however rocky.

Sorry I can't tell you what you want to hear,
Kal

Please ask him, and then tell us the story he tells you ( we all need a good life)

Of course he will not leave his wife, you are merely good sex ( maybe) and something to do for fun. You are wasting your time.

Is he running on the ' I have nothing to hide' 'integrity' or 'family values' platforms ?
He's a sure bet then