When a controlling abusive person gets dumped, and I mean someone who says she never gets dumped and the guys all do what she says and after dumping them they all want to come back. That kind of person. Well I did the unthinkable and dumped her. What kind of emotions go through them? Mad, angry, what? I know it can't sit good with her.

When an abusive, controlling, dominant person gets "dumped" - yes they become angry, hurt that someone actually did to them what they have done to others (as in, "how dare he do that to ME?" kind of thing), and can be very vengeful. They can resort to slander, even liable, and sometimes physical actions against the person who dumped them. They can threaten the person who dumped them, they can threaten that person's family or friends, they can become irrational and be uncontrollable. It is like watching someone implode. Not too healthy, is it? But you know they see anything they say and do as justified. They were wronged and in their opinion, their opinion is the only one that counts.

You did right in dumping this person. You cannot live a life with someone who has those kinds of issues and mechanisms of control. Unless you want to be the whipping post. My advice is to protect yourself, distance yourself, and if you feel threatened please consider going to an attorney and pursue legal protection. I had to do that after breaking up with someone.

Document anything told to you - either by her or by someone she has said anything to. Log it all down - what is said, done, threatened, promised, phone calls, harassments, etc. Dates and times. If you ever need it, you have it.