I just ended a 3 yr relationship with a girl who was something I can't explain, our sex life was horrid, after 3 yrs their was still no shower taking together, I couldn't look at her private parts unless she gave me permission which was only about once for a couple seconds every 2 months, noooooo touching unless she was completely turned on which all I culd do was kiss her and she ed the whole time while doing that. Sex pretty much only at night, when she was ready, during sex she wouldn't not let her self orgasm unless she was doing it. Said she didn't trust me. Lol. I couldn't go down on her, when I could touch her I could suck her nipples, there was allllllllllways rules. It wasn't that she was overweight, I just couldn't do anything without her saying OK. Does this sound like a control thing, I swear I needed a rule book. I went to slow, to fast, I looked, I touched, when sex is good it is good, about 10% of the time. Or shell say lets have sex and during it she will turn TV on and start watch it or start humming, ill get up and say forget it and shell get mad. I couldn't ask for a blow job or orgasm on her, there was no both touching and getting turn on, she would lay there and say turn me on but don't touch, didn't care if I was. Everything was my fault, can anyone explain this.

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Originally Posted by eric1361

i just ended a 3 yr relationship.......can anyone explain this.

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Hello eric:

No. The key is you ENDED it. Poor girl. Oh well, you can't fix everybody.

excon

Lol, I would say be glad that it is finally over... personally I would have ended it a lot sooner. Sounds like a control freak to me.
She probably had many orgasms, just from knowing she was in control.. I bet that is what got her off.
Just be happy its over and let her blame you at least she let you get away.

She has some serious control issues. How you survived 3 years with her is a mystery.

Wow, you poor man. That is NOT the way a sexual relation should be, far from it. I hope you meet a nice "normal" woman soon.

Be glad you are away from her.
It was either control as the others said
Or an oppositional passive/aggressive thing (which is another form of control)
Or she may have been sexually abused and left her abnormal
Or she was just plain messed up

First there is no One way for proper sex, she had issues from perhaps normal expected behavior, but this should have been know, talked about and discussed before a seroius relationship started, and you did continue for several years, so it seems at the time you were OK with it also.

So what is the issue

WOW how did you stay for so long , I would say she has some serious control issues. Be glad your out of it.

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Originally Posted by eric1361

i just ended a 3 yr relationship with a girl who was something i can't explain, our sex life was horrid, after 3 yrs their was still no shower taking together, i couldnt look at her private parts unless she gave me premission which was only about once for a couple seconds every 2 months, noooooo touching unless she was completely turned on which all i culd do was kiss her and she ed the whole time while doing that. sex pretty much only at night, when she was ready, during sex she wouldnt not let her self orgasm unless she was doing it. said she didnt trust me. lol. i couldnt go down on her, when i could touch her i could suck her nipples, there was allllllllllways rules. it wasnt that she was overweight, i just couldnt do anything without her saying ok. does this sound like a control thing, i swear i needed a rule book. i went to slow, to fast, i looked, i touched, when sex is good it is good, about 10% of the time. or shell say lets have sex and during it she will turn tv on and start watch it or start humming, ill get up and say forget it and shell get mad. i couldnt ask for a blow job or orgasm on her, there was no both touching and getting turn on, she would lay there and say turn me on but dont touch, didnt care if i was. everything was my fault, can anyone explain this.

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The problem is with her inside. It's not you. There is no doubt in my mind that she loved you... probably was crazy for you. She was just probably self conscious about herself... Guess it doesn't matter now... but she just didn't want you to think less of her.