What causes a woman to stop in the middle of a climax? I really enjoy being with the guy I'm with whenever we are together, however, in the middle of my climax I stop and I've been trying to figure out what may cause this to happen. I'm not the only one that notices this, he does, and he's also trying to figure out why I'm doing this.

Might be like sky diving; great fun getting to the wing strut but some don't want to let go.

Could it be you don't want this guy to see you "lose control" of yourself?

Friend4u... I agree with you, it took me a long time to let go and "lose control". Now he puts a pillow over my head so the neighbors won't hear me lol!

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Originally Posted by Freda1962

friend4u.....I agree with you, it took me a long time to let go and "lose control". Now he puts a pillow over my head so the neighbors won't hear me lol!!

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LOL :-) Very funny Freda. But in all seriousness I don't think it is an uncommon problem , particularly early on in a relationship.

Just try to relax, this is happening because consciously or sub-sub-consciously you begin to feel anxious. What you may be feeling anxious about may vary. It proably first started because you did not want to him to see you "loose control"(as friend4u178 suggested) and now you proably will find that you make yourself anxious by thinking too intently about if you will be able to finish your climax this time. Once you get too anxious your body reacts as if it was in a situation of danger. This makes all of your "non-essential bodily functions"(such as climaxing) stop.
The best way to overcome this is to RELAX. The best way to do this is to be in a comfortable situation. Preferably your or his bedroom or mabe a hotel, just not in the back of a car in a crowded parking lot. Breath as deeply as possible and when you are getting close to climaxing think of nothing but how amazingly good it feels, don't let your mind wander for a second. This may not work straight away but it will eventually.
And remember the more comfortable you are the easier it will be
Good luck

Most'ly fear. It is how we are taught in this country that it is wronge. Just relax and enjoy you will eventually get over it. Good luck