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  • Nov 16, 2007, 02:48 PM
    mesoso
    Do or die
    So confused...

    I recently left my relationship of 2 years. The past year of course changed and with the guy I fell in love w/started becoming wicked jealous, insecure, clingy, needy, and sufficating. Made me crazy... he had to check my phone, my emails, my website, and all willingly I gave him passwords because I had nothing to hide. Also became a yeller.. anger... started to place a wedge between us to the point I started looking to my friend for advice. I was told that the person who accuses the most is probably the one doing the dirty... so one night I came home from school and decided to call his bluff... he always acts like he is so tired and sleeping on the coauch while I'm at school... to the point of deleting history on the PC... well I found the temp files and found out he was searching for single women in the area... I left him because I felt betrayed and made a fool.

    Now he wants me back... I love him and don't like thinking of him w/other women and feel confused as far as what to do with this whole thing. I know he must talk to women during the night still... especially while I'm not there anymore... dont trust him at all.

    Love can be so blind sometimes...

    Me so so confused
  • Nov 16, 2007, 03:00 PM
    enigmagnetic
    You definitely need some time away from each other. You're still angry about it, I'm sure, and he needs to become more secure. Just tell him you need some space.
  • Nov 16, 2007, 04:30 PM
    otherkat
    He won't change quickly insecurities like that are hard to kick. You need time apart.
  • Nov 16, 2007, 07:51 PM
    e419
    A relationship without trust won't last. As hard as it is if you feel you can't trust him you don't need to put yourself through that. Take some time mabey things might change but don't jump right back into it.
  • Nov 16, 2007, 08:02 PM
    Ash123
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mesoso
    So confused...

    I recently left my relationship of 2 years. The past year of course changed and with the guy I fell in love w/started becoming wicked jealous, insecure, clingy, needy, and sufficating. Made me crazy....he had to check my phone, my emails, my website, and all willingly I gave him passwords becasue I had nothing to hide. Also became a yeller..anger...started to place a wedge between us to the point I started looking to my friend for advice.....dont trust him at all.

    love can be so blind sometimes...

    me so so confused


    What are you confused about?

    Read your words above.

    Nope, you are not confused.

    You are just having normal feelings after a break up.


    You are feeling the usual guilt and remorse. But if you read your words it is crystal clear why you need to find yourself a new man. Now.

    Hang in there and each day it will get better!

    Going back would just be repeating history and losing time life has given you to find a better match.

    A

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