Ask Me Help Desk - Is my partner Gay or Bi?

Hi there everyone, I'm new here and found the site when looking for some advice about my situation. I apologise if it's a bit graphic.

I think my partner may be gay or bi, I don't know. :eek:

The things that make me think he is gay are::confused: :mad:

1. He kisses his mates when we go camping when he is drunk.
2. He is always singing the 'wot wot in the butt' song from utube
3. He flirts with other men at work
4. He goes quiet when he sees a naked man on TV and enters a trance
5. He compliments good looking men on TV
6. He doesn't really pay too much attention to women in general, just their clothes.
7. We have sex with strap ons and double end toys
8. He pleases himself anally everytime he masturbates
9. He agreed to have a man take him in a 3some with us (not happened yet)
10. He is very fashion conscious
11. He is always flouncing/mincing around

Things that think he may be stright:confused:
1. He has a child (means nothing I guess)
2. He kissed a man and wasn't able to go any further (might have been the wrong man for him)
3. He loves having sex with me and is always very much into it
4. He loves me in lingerie and adores my shoes
5. He is never offput by my body or giving me pleasure
6. he never preens himself
7. He never wants to do anal on me

I don't know, there a more for gay than straight points here :(

I have tried to ask him about this and he says he isn't gay, but he trusts me enough to use toys on him. Its weird though because when we use toys, he completely goes off my body. Its like a switch in his brain. Then, when we don't use toys he ravishes me like I am a big plate of ribs!:rolleyes:

I don't know what to do or think. We are very close and almost like best mates so he isn't going to tell me he is gay. We still have a great sex life although I am a little bored right now of him.

Help... he's been dropping hints of marriage.. even my mum thinks he's gay.

Slinky xx

Communication is key in any relationship

If marriage is being considered
You guys should be able to talk these kind of things out.

I really don't know straight men who take it in the butt...

He might be Bi.

izkylee's right, before marriage should be considered, you should be talking these things out.

This is something that you really need to talk to him about. Sometimes it can take a guy a extremely long time to figure out his sexualty. And he might be bi, or gay and not even relize it. Because he might not even reliaze what he is doing.

He seems to be aware enough of what he is doing to not want anyone to know about it. Part of me feels like I want to leave him in case he runs off with another man and breaks my heart. I can never compete with another man :(

Sounds bi or very sexually free spirit, ask him, talk to him, with the use of sex toys sounds like fairly open discussion should not be an issue.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SlinkyVixen

Hi there everyone, I'm new here and found the site when looking for some advice about my situation. I apologise if its a bit graphic.

I think my partner may be gay or bi, i don't know. :eek:

The things that make me think he is gay are::confused: :mad:

1. He kisses his mates when we go camping when he is drunk.
2. He is always singing the 'wot wot in the butt' song from utube
3. He flirts with other men at work
4. He goes quiet when he sees a naked man on TV and enters a trance
5. He compliments good looking men on TV
6. He doesn't really pay too much attention to women in general, just their clothes.
7. We have sex with strap ons and double end toys
8. He pleases himself anally everytime he masturbates
9. He agreed to have a man take him in a 3some with us (not happened yet)
10. He is very fashion conscious
11. He is always flouncing/mincing around

Things that think he may be stright:confused:
1. He has a child (means nothing I guess)
2. He kissed a man and wasn't able to go any further (might have been the wrong man for him)
3. He loves having sex with me and is always very much into it
4. He loves me in lingerie and adores my shoes
5. He is never offput by my body or giving me pleasure
6. he never preens himself
7. He never wants to do anal on me

I don't know, there a more for gay than straight points here :(

I have tried to ask him about this and he says he isnt gay, but he trusts me enough to use toys on him. Its weird tho cos when we use toys, he completely goes off my body. Its like a switch in his brain. Then, when we don't use toys he ravishes me like I am a big plate of ribs!:rolleyes:

I don't know what to do or think. We are very close and almost like best mates so he isn't going to tell me he is gay. We still have a great sex life although I am a little bored right now of him.

Help... he's been dropping hints of marriage.. even my mum thinks he's gay.

Slinky xx

I think he is gay but is with u so that people don't look at him different or to completely agnore him

As far as taking it in the butt. Apparently when you message or play around or in that area. It gives greater pleasure and bigger orgasms. That is what I have heard.