My father has put me down and insulted me my whole life. He thinks it is funny. Often the insult comes in front of other people and he says it like a joke. Growing up, I didn't realize the affect it had on me. I would call myself a loser, fat, stupid or whatever. Luckily, someone told me how awful it is to say those things about myself. It didn't even occur to me that I was doing it. The minute I stopped, my life changed. I have really come to love myself and I have an amazing husband and beautiful child. Recently, I moved back to the same area as my parents. I tried to have a healthy relationship with my father. I told him how his insults affected me. I asked him to stop. I set my boundaries. I thought he was making progress when he admitted to me that he is passive aggressive and that his father treated him this way. After being back only 3 months, the insults came back and now they included my husband and son. That crossed the line for me. I don't know that I can even have a relationship with him. It is clear he doesn't respect me or my family. I feel very alone because my siblings and my mother act as though it is my fault. They are not supportive at all. I feel depressed and as though the wind has been let out of my sail. How do I get it back? How do I have a relationship with my family and not my father? Can I STOP his behavior? I know you can't change people but I can't have a relationship with him unless he changes his behavior. With Thankgiving approaching, my whole family will be at my father's house, and I will be not. I'm devastated that I made this huge move and am still left out.