:p so I have this problem see. I met this man back in 1996 and he was the best man I had ever dated. I was in love with him and he said he felt the same way and boy all my friends loved him. He was the only guy they didn't tell me I should watch out for. You should have seen the way his face lit up when he saw me. Damn he was a good actor. Well we were going to school together in Kentucky and he left back to nc and I graduated and went back to ga and we kept contact for a little while. Well my contact info disappeared and he never even bothered to call me except I think he wrote me one time and that was it. Now I'm realizing that he was just using me and I have told myself I will not think about him but I can't stop. He may have been acting but he made me feel like a woman and like a queen on a pedastal I've never met a man like that.

How far apart do you live? It may have not been acting, but time away from each other (distance) does not help matters. It is hard to stay close if that is your situation, but it takes effort on both sides. Why do you not call or write a letter and let him know how you feel and if you get a response or do not then you will be better off eighter letting everything go and moving on, or coming together more. You both enjoyed each others company by the sounds of it. Hope all works out for the best.

I hope you can find him and that you will get the answers you are looking for, or you will not be able to go on with your life. Think of those other young women who never had or will have the experience of feeling as loved and adored as you did, even if just for a while. Some cannot even experience this for once in their lives. Keep your fond memories, even if he's changed, because I'm sure he did love you, and still might. Good Luck to you dear.

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Chery, Tried rating you. You are absolutely right in your answer. It sounds that they both did love each other and maybe things have changed. The only way she will know is to get intouch with him.

Its funny, I looked up a friend that I hadent talked too in like 3 years off classmates.com. Do you know where he went to HS? If so, I would try there. Like I said, I found my friend and I hung out with her last week! Pretty crazy, but it worked.

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Its funny, I looked up a friend that I hadent talked too in like 3 years off of classmates.com. Do you know where he went to HS? If so, I would try there. Like I said, I found my friend and I hung out with her last week! Pretty crazy, but it worked.

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Good for you Jeff - don't stop going forward!
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Hi,
You will, eventually, get over him; but he will stay in your memory for a long, long time. If he wasn't "just using you", then he will find a way to contact you, if he was really "for real".
Otherwise, you had a great relationship, and will always remember it. Keep meeting new people, talking with them, and enjoying life to its fullest.
Believe me, you will meet someone who treats you "like a queen", with respect, and caring. It might take a little time, as it does sometimes, but it will happen.
I do with you the best, and congratulations on graduating from a school in KY; there are some good ones!

What I mean is I don't have his address or phone number. I have not seen him in years. I was the one always calling or writing. Why couldn't he. What if he's married with kids. I know he has a daughter who at that time was 5. yes I know if you love them you are happy even if its not with you but with someone else. Yes it would be a weight off my shoulders to hear he was well. I trie looking him up on the internet. No such luck. I hope I hadn't forgotten how his last name was spelled. Thank you for the advice. :)

Sometimes people lose touch and years later find each other. Prime example is my wife. We had our first kiss at 7. Moved away at 10 to another province. Then 8 years later moved back to the province. We found each other but it took a long time to get with each other. We got married when we were 28 years old. I am not saying this happens with everybody but it was a very long process of spending time with each other and opening up and becoming stronger with each other.

As far as writing you, maybe he did not receive your letters and maybe he did. If you do not have an address but a name. Do you know how to get intouch with any of his family members. There is always a chance to find somebody from years before. We all live life and sometimes distance can cause people to drift away. Hope you do eventually find him and find out how life is treating him. Good luck in your search.

Joe