I'm ending a relationship with a girl after 3 yrs, she hardly ever gave anything, and said just having her should be enough, without her doing anything. She was controlling, abusive, lazy, you name it. My question is why are people like that never wrong? I've tried talking to her and explaining but she just says if I don't like it go find someone else. Well I'm looking, any help?

People like your ex just don't like to admit they're wrong. They don't want to face the fact that not everything they do is perfect, so they play it off. Don't bother explaining anything to her, if you were important to her, she would already know that in a successful relationship its fifty fifty. Good luck on your next go round, maybe you'll find someone whom appreciates you!

You shouldn't have to put up with someone like that, if she really cared about you than she would care what you have to say. If she's going to be abusive than get rid of her. Its hard to let go after such a long time, as for finding someone else, just follow your heart. Remember, if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got. So get out of the relationship, re-organize and try something new.

So what does a person like her do after I don't respond to her calls ot texts. Do they get mad, lose control, find another sucker?

That would depend on how violent and abusive she is.

Be prepared to file a restraining order against her if necessary. Might be worth your time to change email addresses and phone numbers right now.

Eric... when she figures out that you are really through with her she will find someone else. She has to have people around her that will put up with her $hit. She will get in touch with you every now and again just because she can. She will do it until you no longer let her. She will never, never understand that she is wrong. Let her go, find someone that you can have a equal mature relationship with. Count on it she will try to bust it up, because she is a control freak!

They are never wrong because it is "MY way or the highway"
With options like that where does it leave room for them T0 be wrong??

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Originally Posted by eric1361

im ending a relationship with a girl after 3 yrs, she hardly ever gave anything, and said just having her should be enough, without her doing anything. she was controlling, abusive, lazy, u name it. my question is why are people like that never wrong? ive tried talking to her and explaining but she just says if i dont like it go find someone else. well im looking, any help?

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I think you should leave, but if she is really controlling and what not then she will freak out when you actually do leave. She doesn't think you will actually go through with it. So don't be surprised when she becomes a crazy stalker