My boyfriend and I have been living together 2 years now. I would like a commitment now, not get married, but at least the promise of marriage. He says we'll get married when we move in 5 years, which is fine, but I still want the engagement ring. I'd be happy with that. I'm not sure if he is committed to this relationship or if this is just a resting place for him until he decides to move on.

Your boyfriend IS showing a commitment to you by living together, you can not put pressure on him as this may drive him away!

When the time is right I'm sure you will both know, try not to worry! One step at a time is needed here I think hun!

Enjoy each others company with as little stress as possible!

If he wanted to get married, he would have asked you and gotten you a ring at this point. And to be honest, what advantage to him is there to get married? He has you living there, so what extra benefit is it to him to get a license and pay for a wedding and so on.

If you want a ring and marriage, you get the commitment beforer you move in. afterwards it is much harder to get.

What were the last 2 years built on?
Early in a relationship is the time to communicate our goals, directions, needs and expectations, if not related to that relationship then at least to relationships in general.

If we are learning as we go there will be times when 2 people are in opposition.
If we alone are "hoping" for commitment then we have to have faith.
If our hopes are dashed we adjust our expectations to increase the chance of those hopes and dreams becoming realities.

Sometimes you have to move on or continue to work within the framework you coauthored over the past 2 years.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

If he wanted to get married, he would have asked you and gotten you a ring at this point. And to be honest, what advantage to him is there to get married? He has you living there, so what extra benifit is it to him to get a license and pay for a wedding and so on.

If you want a ring and marriage, you get the committment beforer you move in. afterwards it is much harder to get.

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My experience with living in and not having a solid comittment has been negative in the last ten years, so I'd have to agree that a 2 year trial-period needs to be taken further with at least a ring...

Good luck dear.

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Explain to him what you want and see if he wants the same in society today less people are getting married break it to him soon or he will get to comfortable in your situation
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